I was taking a little stroll down Eden Fantasys Sexis Magazine lane and happened across the interview of the hot and smart girls over at the Tits And Sass blog by the lovely Rachel Rabbit Whitewho is a sex and gender writer. The interview was about music and stripping. What music do you like to strip to, how does music affect your earning potential and the like and it got me thinking about how strippers and escorts use music differently. Strippers use the music in selling their lap dances, they often have to use some other girls music when she’s on stage and they are selling dances and maybe even have dance to some crap they cant stand and make it feel sexy and like they are really into it. You gotta respect anyone who can do that. Music obviously place a big part in the working life of a stripper. They are after all dancers. But how exactly does music play a role in the working life of an escort?
Many escorts do a lot to make their appointments feel intimate and inviting, which can often include answering the door wearing some sexy lingerie, sexy lighting as in candle light this can also include some soft sexy music playing. The reason for the sexy lighting is obvious, every one looks better in candle light, the hooker your about to pay your hard earned cash to and the client doing the paying. Lets face it we have to look at you and sometimes you are not our cup of tea… so every little bit helps. The music though is another story completely. The music is not just a collection of random Barry White and Marvin Gaye songs. Though setting the mood always helps, the music my friends is timed. That’s right the play list you are hearing when you pop on over to see your favorite pay for pay lady is one way we know how time is passing and keeps us on track in our appointments, so that we can get everything that needs to happen in the one hour of GFE loving the client has paid for, done.
Time to go!
For example halfway though my appointments when the Psychedelic Furs “Love My Way” comes on, I know that about 30 minutes has gone by and if I’m not done or close to done with round one there would be no round two. So I have decisions to make, either stretch out the first go around or get it over with so there will be time left for another round of action. I also have a two minute warning song, which is to say when “Baby Elephant Walk” (Yes, I have a sense of humor) comes on I know that there’s about 5 minutes until the full hour is up and that I have just about that much time to get my client in the shower and out the door if he’s lolly gagging. When Nina Simone’s “I Want A Little Sugar In My Bowl” starts to play my client had better be putting on his coat and walking out and If the music goes off all together, my client is over staying his hour and I am losing money. Not something I ever like to do. So even though both strippers and escorts use music to their advantage in the work they do, they use it just a little differently and here you thought your favorite hooker just really had a thing for Starland Vocal Band, nope it meant it was time for you to go.
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If you don’t have one you will after you listen to this. This little diddy started out as a femdom hypnosis custom request (i just love making custom Mp3s, i love it long time) and developed into a hot seller. I guess there really is a market for premature ejaculation and over excitement fetish material. Lucky me and poor sad unlucky little you with your uncontrollable hair trigger cock.
Finding the balance between housewife, hypno-domme and whore has not been easy. I’ve been living in DC for about a month now, okay exactly a month and I’m a pretty happy girl and therefore I want to spend all my time dong fun happy things and not working. However that’s unrealistic and I need to find the balance. It’s not coming easy, I’m working for that balance and working hard. I was raised a Buddhist and i always try to be the ball or the donut hole or whatever you wanna call it so balance in life has always been important to me. if not always attainable. It is a worthy endeavor. So i continue to try. I try to maintain a work schedule and a home life. To not only work when i’m inspired to work but to work when time dictates which has never been my strong suit. I like to be inspired. Inspired to write, inspired to shoot, inspired to dress up in a tight corset and beat your ass until you cry like a bitch.
Since I’ve come to this realization i now know I have to invent new ways to work within a happy household, within a happy mind and body and its not easy for me. But like everything i will tackle it with all my might until i conquer this new way of working.. After all invention they say my dear friends, is 93% perspiration, 6% electricity, 4% evaporation, and 2% butterscotch ripple.
I’ve been selling my content on Kinkbomb for over a year. For those of you who don’t know who they are they are a fairly new clip site with “offices” based out of Las Vegas. They call themselves “Kinkbomb Media Group” But I’m pretty sure it’s about 4 people. I’ve had personal contact with 3 of them. A nameless, Customer service rep, A tech support guy and the President who’s said his name was Joshua.
When I registered to sell content with them there were only a handful of store up and operational and it was easy for me to quickly become a top content provider. I spent 3 solid months of driving traffic, adding links and promoting my content on their site. Kinkbomb takes 40% of my sales and for that they process the transactions, host the content and provide traffic or what I like to call “eyeballs” The more people who see your stuff the more likely you will make sales. I give up 40% of my earnings for those services. After 3 months I didn’t see my sales increase by much, they hovered in the barely getting a check range and I decided to put my efforts into my other clip stores. Especially after getting my analytics results and doing some analysis. I was driving a hefty portion of my traffic, in fact I was driving most of it. So Kinkbomb was making 40% of my sales for payment processing and hosting my content for sale. That for those of you who don’t know is outrageous. If Kinkbomb was providing traffic and i was still not making any increasing sales well, that’s on me. Kinkbomb was not bringing eyeballs to the table so i basically did the bare minimum moving forward and put my efforts into marketing and promoting my stores other sites.
Flash ahead to a few months ago when Kinkbomb servers failed. Almost all my content was lost, how did I find out about this huge problem? I stopped making sales and spent some time asking around until I found out that Kinkbomb had a huge server failing and that many stores were effected. I went from being the number 3 or 4 content provider to being off the list. Kinkbbomb eventually sent out a mass email to its stores informing them that their content might be affected with a promise that eventually it would be fixed to be patient etc, etc… Not an email telling me directly how I was effected and what steps they were taking and what steps I would need to take to correct or compensate for the issue. I had to follow up with that after several days of Kinkbomb tweets asking for their stores patience and some emails informing that it would be rectified soon.
It wasn’t, most of my content was lost. It needed to be uploaded again, descriptions added, pricing information added, keywords added, animated gifs added, it was a mess. KB’s tech guy was helpful and i mass uploaded all the content I had easily accessible since most was on back up drives and needed to be searched out. I spent a fair amount of time uploading my content to which KB told me they could eternally reinstate the other info. Yay! Only it was bullshit i found that out a month later when all my best selling content, my hypnosis mp3s were in the server but not listed for sale. I had to by hand add those to my store for sale. So much for kinkbomb doing the linking. How did I find that out… no sales, then investigation. Which was becoming a pattern for Kinkbomb
Okay I get it shit happens and it was a huge pain in the ass and Kinkbomb handled the situation really badly. A sever melt down is a huge deal and causes work for everyone. Kinkbomb’s lack of personal attention and having what appeared to be a piece mail solution thrown together only as needs arose and studios complained and as after thoughts didn’t help. But I was able to get a quarter of my content back up for sale and put Kinkbomb out of my mind and got to work on other sites and life was almost back to normal with them…
Then the unthinkable happened…
I got an email informing me that Kinkbomb had over paid me due to an accounting error on their part and a “new” accounting system they went on to say they would be docking my current drop. They gave me blanket numbers and did not provide any documentation. A day later my deposit was docked. I then did my own accounting based on my sales emails and found sadly, not to my surprise that my numbers and Kinkbomb’s numbers did not match. I provided Kinkbomb with this information including transaction numbers and asked that the difference be direct deposited to me that day.
Email one: Customer service then told me that 3 of my sales were “incomplete” sales and that the “system” had sent out the emails too soon.That glitch was being corrected.
Email two: Customer service then said that according to “finance” 2 of those sales were charge backs and that one was just refunded no reason given.
That’s when I saw red. Let me be clear we are NOT talking about a lot of money were talking a few bucks. I responded requesting documentation of the two charge backs and a reason for the third and i asked a lot of questions. If in fact the sales were charge backs why did they say they were incomplete sales? what steps were they taking to block the buyer? What investigation was done for these charge backs? how could a trust them with so much conflicting information? and so on and so on. I was not a happy camper and i felt like kinkbomb was being either shady or plain old incompetent and i let that be known.
Email three from the president of Kinkbomb media: giving me a “charge back” lesson explaining to me what a charge back was and the general process with no information pertaining to my specific “charge backs” NO answer to any of my questions and none of the supporting data I asked for. I had explained to kinkbomb in my previous email that they have used up their good will and that i could no longer excuse their business practice they needed to provide me proof of the situation. The email i received from the president of kinkbomb was condescending in tone, especially where he got to the part where he touted Kinkkbomb as being “tops” in the industry “bar none” he had the balls to tell me that after their server melted down, after they docked my deposits before even letting me know there was a possible issue, with bringing under 500 eyeballs to my store a month and with extreme lack of customer relations or service. Really that’s tops? No one does better then that? Well color me fucking surprised.
I wrote back asking the president of Kinkbomb media if he would be the one answering my questions from now on and if i would be getting the charge back documentation from him personally and i have not heard back from kinkbomb media since. Radio silence. well I get the mass emails where they tout their lame as fuck contest where they try to get the studios to promote heavier to win something lame so they don’t have to buy any actual advertising. Yeah, i got those but nothing from the president who thought it important enough to inform me what a charge back was but not important enough to actually answer my questions.
In my frustration I thought to myself how stupd can they be? Then it dawned on me its not that Kinkbomb is stupid (shady maybe) it’s that Kinkbomb thinks I’M stupid and they have been acting accordingly. Great way to do business Kinkbomb. So I removed my content of f their servers but left my store up because IM STILL WAITING for my documentation of those supposed charge backs and I’m still waiting for a reason for the third refund and while I wait I’m not comfortable making any amount of money for Kinkbomb Media and since they have shown that they are untrustworthy I thought it better to just remove the content pending the answers I need to feel comfortable doing business with them.
I have a feeling i’ll be waiting forever, so be it as long as they can ignore me is as long as i can tell people my personal experience with them and that’s what i intend to do. People can make up their own minds and if they decide to do business with them they can take their own measures to safeguard that they aren’t being for lack of a better term ripped off.
Maybe kinkbomb should have checked me out that not unlike some of the other studios who have left them because they were unhappy with Kinkbomb that I may be a low money maker with them but my mouth is tenfold and if you wrong me I will make sure everyone knows about it …. until you make it right or when hell freezes over which ever comes first.
As you may have noticed over the last year I’ve been writing sex toy reviews for Eden Fantasys. It’s been a really fun experience and I do love it when random sex toys show up in my mail (who wouldn’t). Actually I do love sex toys in general so toy reviews were a natural progression. After taking a break from toy reviews because of my cross country move and having no time for anything let along testing out and writing about naughty sex toys and after getting settled in to my new digs I was approached about writing other things that relate to Eden Fantasys, so I wont be doing the toy reviews any longer but writing about other sexy naughty informative sex culture things in sponsored post for the folks at Eden Fantasys. Instead of keeping the product I review, I’ll be receiving gift cards so I can pick out my own naughty toys and we all know how much I love gift cards… and naughty sex toys. Its a win win in my book and I’m looking forward to giving it a whirl, seeing how it goes and writing about all kinds of interesting and different things. But wait there’s more (said in my best as seen on TV voice) this isn’t a program special just for me if you are a sexy writer (i know a lot of you write) with a readership above nil then this is open to you too. The official name is “Eden Loves Bloggers” and you don”t have to be an escort or sex worker to write for them they have options for mommy bloggers too. I’ve been treated really well by them and have enjoyed the whole process and I can recommend then and you should check them out So there ya have it, a little whats new in the world of Jenny and a little share the blog wealth. Tell um Jenny sent ya, ha!