I will not chat you up for free, i will not date you for free, I’m a sex worker, a clip makers, a Domme, a PSO, an escort. That means you need to pay me for my time. Be it phone sex, sexy chat on IM or in person. You want to get my attention, then do something attention worthy. Get my attention with your wallet. Buying one 2.99 clip isn’t going to get you unlimited back and forth emails (try buying 20) , the promise of something off my wish list then not following though will only show you for the douche you truly are (that i suspected all along).
Follow though matters if you want my sexual attention, want to beg at my feet, want naughty talk late at night or want to be dragged around at the end of my leash in public. If you want my scorn go right ahead with what you’re doing. You want to be blocked, dismissed, made to be invisible and non existent to me? Then have at it and by all means keep up with your course of action.You want your name passed around to my Mistress girlfriends, escort friends and PSO buddies then by all means keep up with your dumb ass transparent all to familiar reindeer games.
I’m really tired of the emotional vampires and greedy submissives who really just want to be the ones in control. WTF is up with that crap. Pick a side sparky, you cant be both submissive and in control. I’m not you’re goddamn sex kitten and masturbatory instrument. Show me you’re worthy and that you respect my fucking time and then i will give you the attention you seek and be all you want, need and desire me to be, I’m an expert at it.
It’s that time of year again when we all reflect on what we are thankful for and i am no different. Just another reminder that sex workers are just like everyone else and not some mythical untouchable beasts. A lot has changed for me over the year, I’ve changed a lot in a year its funny how that can happen. I stood my ground, branched out, put my education to use and cleaned my emotional house. All to varying degrees of success. Yanno just getting though another year…
My list for 2010.
1. The love of someone special
2. Little girls with big vocabularies
3. Friends who value you as much as you value them, do anything to make you laugh and take you out for coffee
4. A roof and 4 walls
5. Coffee and dog snuggles in the morning
6. Ancient musical instruments
7. Fetish lovers in foreign countries
8. The ability to think on my feet
9. My sex worker friends who are always supportive
“We are the music makers and we are the dreamers of the dreams”
…Okay maybe not the makers but i am a music enthusiast (much like my friend Charlie Sheena is a cat enthusiast) since the peer to peer file sharing sites are being shut down one by one (yanno Lime-wire and the like) there’s pretty much no good way to get your paws on music right now. So i came up with an idea.
Why not trade music with my Internet friends. All our tastes are so umm.. errr.. diverse! It could be a fun way to get turned on to new music (good bad and certainly the ugly, some of you have terrible taste.. heh) or at the very least have a little fun putting together play-lists and sharing what you like with others.
I’m putting together a mailing list of people who once a week will put together a zip archive of Mp3 music they wish to share with others on the list. It will have some kinda loosey goosey weekly theme (love, hate, sex, animals, clothes, body parts, crunk, honky tonk…who knows could be anything) then you reply to all in the list attaching your zip of the Mp3 play list theme and WHAM your inbox is filled with who knows what kinda goodies from your fellow list members. Easy peasy!
How it all works:
1. You will get an email on Friday with that weeks kinda sorta theme
2. Put together your version of the theme (this is the creative part..no really it is)
3. Save the MP3’s into a zip archive (5 to 15 songs, lets keep it send-able and easy to download)
4. Reply to ALL on the list with your attached zip (try to get it sent by the end of the weekend)
Viola new music to enjoy all week! What could be simpler, not a whole lot.
If you want to participate (and i hope you do!) send an email to “DemiloMusic@gmail.com” with the word “LIST” in the subject line and your in. Remember your email will be visible by all who participate and if this goes well your inbox will get filled up with fun new musical files to download and enjoy, so you might want to make a Gmail or other email addy just for this.
It started like this, i got an email on escorts.com from someone calling themselves “providers voice”. telling me not to use escorts.com. Escorts.com was one of the companies owned by A-1 advertising and A-1 got raided recently. they also own HotMovies among others no one really knows what the men in blue were looking for or which company they were going after but it was best to be real careful when booking off that site for a while.
I tried to look up providers voice, no history. I asked around, no one ever heard of them. The person mailing left a name i couldn’t find no info connected. No website, No profile No trace. Okay noted. Ignored.
Today i get an email to my email address unsolicited with no opt out and i sure as hell didn’t opt in. This one was waring “ladies” against giving their CC information to escorts.com who is now requiring it as an age verification mechanism. Yanno like CL, Back-page, Eros, City-vibe, That Mall, and pretty much any other legit business endeavor that caters to sex workers. Now some of those require even more to protect themselves legally. It appears to me in light of A-I advertising’s recent raid they are now putting a policy into play to shield them from the charge of “Underage” which is the route LE has taken up against so many when trying to bring down business support services to escorts, providers voice is waring people to not comply.
No complying will get your profile taken down. If you’ve ever been a Escorts.com VIP (like i have) well then they already have your info and you likely didn’t get the email but because e.com is one of those sites that lets you put up a profile without being a VIP anyone can do it, now a CC will be required. Want the profile, then give them info. I know its scary with the recent busts but that’s a choice you will have to make for yourself, if you are comfortable with that or not.
What i am taking exception with is some entity no once can verify doling out advice to sex workers… AGAIN. Didn’t we jut go though this. Before you take any advice from anyone on the real business of sex work check them out. See that they are legit, vet them and then listen and use your critical thinking skills to see if what they are telling you makes sense to you. Though this group or person might be trying to do some good, they are already hading out bad advice they have no website and their domain is less then one month old. They can be ANYONE. Would you take advice from a stranger on the street about escorting? Of course not, so why would you listen to an anonymous email? I know you dont when Nigerian banker tells you you’ve won a million dollars and all you need to do is give then 2k in a money order and your will be rich.
I’ve asked around, to long time women in the business those that do outreach and run and participate in safety sites, NO one knows who this outfit is… i mean NO ONE.
In light of recent events both in MD,VA, DC, PA and in the blogosphere, you need to take a LONG HARD look at who is telling YOU whats safe and best to do.
I wrote back providers voice and i have yet to head from them, i may be waiting a very long time.
UPDATE: 11/16/20- Providers Voice got back to me and didn’t give me any information as to who they are. They clam to be a legal and political advocacy group HOWEVER their website went live today and they are trying to get ladies to sign up for some $99.00 program of theirs.
I’m still trying to find anyone who may have any idea who they are. I’ve asked around to advocates, activist, escorts, blacklist groups and so far no one has any idea. They showed up out of nowhere with no credentials of any kind. They are unwilling to provide anything that will show their legitimacy to members of the community (and numerous people have asked them who they are). They are operating completely anonymously.
No credentials, no transparency, trying to collect money.
Yeah good luck with that.