I was lucky enough to be invited to answer a few questions for the PSO spotlight feature on Sarah Does Phonesex. It was a lot of fun and Sarah is a cool chick who is not only a fun loving PSO but also very passionate about social justice. As a sex worker who often isn’t shy about voicing her political beliefs, i love that Sarah is vocal about her own beliefs and shares them along with all kinds of naughtiness. Sex workers be they PSOs, Escorts, Dommes or Cam girls are full people and i personally love when they interject a touch of real life into their websites, twitter streams, tumblrs and whatnot. Thanks Sarah for the write up… you rock!
Its a brand new year and i have some brand new projects and some old ones I always seem to be working on. Having just left my day job (don’t get me started on that crap) I’ll be doubling down on my clip business. I am surprised at how much i enjoy it, i only wonder how long it will hold my interest before i run off after then next bright shinny thing. However for now it’s clips, clips, clips and more clips.
Its interesting to see what it is people want me to make. I started off doing a little bit of everything and see what sold. I was surprised at the direction my clips took after my customers stared to buy and send me feedback. As my friend Sarah Blake puts it “the wallets have spoken” I like to do what i can to keep the wallets happy and getting off and if my sloppy tongue and my erotic hypnosis is what does that trick then that’s what i will do. Of course I’ll still make things that amuse me because i like to amuse myself with weird clip making (go figure). But the bulk of what i make will be bent in the direction of what the market wants to see from me. I’m still the new kid on the clip making block and i still have a lot to learn but I’m figuring it out and its growing month by month.
With the guidance of those wonderful fetish clip making ladies who have been at this for a while, i have gotten my feet firmly in the pond and put together a system for myself. It’s a lot of work for one little indie girl but with patience, creativity, perseverance and time i can see now it will pay off.. and its fun.
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My escorting has been taking a back burner and I’ve been seeing pretty much my regulars, extended appointments and people whose company I truly enjoy. This has happened for several reasons. I’m tired is one, how long can you be a fuck doll before it takes a toll? I have a man in my life i love and really the deeper involved we get the more escorting ceases to be fun for me and I’m really over chasing down that kind of work when my focus seems to be more creative outlets of sex work (clips, phone sex and writing). It’s new and fresh and I’m having fun doing it. I still see clients when time and circumstances permit and id be a fool in this economy to turn down viable work when it comes my way but I’m not chasing it right now. Just another year as a sex worker and just a new way to make another dollar.
The holidays are fast approaching and last night we just changed the clocks (fall back!) its as close to actual seasons we get out here in sunny Southern California. There are some changes in the world of Jenny as well.
Touring: My touring is on hold. I may make it out to a few cities for weekends but i wont be doing any extensive touring until after the first of the year an even then i’m not sure when it will pick back up. I’m still available to travel for overnights but those need to be on the weekends with a bit of prior notice.
Escort availability: Real word responsibilities has once again decreased my availability. Daytime appointments are no longer available unless its on the weekend. I will still be available evenings but last minute get together are unlikely. If you are a last minute kinda person, pre-screening is really the way to go. I wont be able to screen and get together last minute. Booking in advance is really how I’m going to have to do things for a while.
Phone session availability: Pretty much the same as my escort availability though i will have the phone on some early mornings. But late night the phone will be off. Sorry late night phone friends.
I’ve also decided to give away some free photoshoots for ladies ( or gents) who need them. The details are on my photography site. I recently played a bunch of lip service to “giving back to your community” and im going to put my money/time where my mouth is.
I will continue to add fun clips to both my KinkBomb clip studio and to my Clips4sale studio. I have a plan to keep them updated with new content. So do not fret fetish lovers!
It happened again a sex worker preemptively outed herself. This time it was the twitter sensation “TeleEroticist” a phone sex operator who with a popular twitter feed where she was both witty and interesting detailing her work as a PSO. Some dude who knew her in her real life decided he was going to out her and he took steps. She outed herself as a preemptive strike. Bell De Jour the blogger turned novelist, turned subject of a Showtime TV series about hooking was finally forced to out herself when an ex decided he was going to out her. It sucks, this is just the latest example. It’s an epidemic. I don’t know a escort that hasn’t at least been threatened with being outed. Some run scared, go underground and come back with a new name persona so they can keep working in peace but they always look over their shoulder. Some do what TeleEroticist an Belle De Jour did and out themselves before some douche bag can do it for them.
Some power hungry, or angry dude always seems to be at the bottom of it though sometimes its some power hungry angry chick though that’s not as common. Someone who feels powerless or slighted or out of control. they try to assert some kind of control over a sex worker, they want to frighten her, hurt her, ruin her. Its prevalent, constant and always there. Hobbyist, client, friend, lover, someone you trusted at some point or someone who went out of their way to dig out your real identity. Its an epidemic.
Look out for the whores!
There’s this big fear among men who fuck hookers that the escorts will blackmail them. This fear is stoked in the fire of the message board grunt, scratch, locker room culture. It’s whispered about in private groups of whore mongers “watch out for the whores, they all want to blackmail you” its posted about on private men boards. its grown from a little seedling into a giant oak. And though i’m sure there have been occasions where some unscrupulous hooker blackmailed someone (usually someone famous or notable so it makes the papers) its not common, it almost never happens, its rare. but if you read the men’s board you’d think it was happening several times a day to just about everyone who’s ever thought about fucking a whore.
In contrast, almost every escort i know has dealt with some form of being outed. From handling general threats from anonymous emails, to dealing with admins and hosting companies in attempts to get their info removed from websites dedicated to outing sex workers, to hiring lawyers, getting TROs, moving to other states or paying for family reconciliation therapy after their family receives a plain brown paper envelope with print outs detailing their life as a sex worker. It happens way more then it should. I myself have had my dealings with this situation which is on going. It’s an epidemic.
I don’t see this stopping anytime soon. as long as escorting is stigmatized it will continue. As long as there are angry people misdirecting their rage at whores it will continue. As long as we as a group are forced to live and work underground and off the grid it will continue.
TeleEroticist chose to take control and out herself. I applaud and support her decision to do so but it sucks she had to make that choice. Being a legal sex worker she will have to deal with the fall out in a different way then if she was an illegal sex worker and also had to worry about being arrested for what she does along with the stigma of being branded a whore, for talking to men on the phone about sex. And from what i hear…. shes rather good at it.
I’ve been thinking a lot about ways to diversify and to generate a passive income. To that end I’ve started to create a whole phone sex business, which is right on tract to explode into a good living and I’ve dipped my toes into the world of cam whoring. The later remains to be seen as far as diversification goes. However it did open the door to me as far as passive income generation. The word of the day is clips. I’m not sure but self generated erotic content in the form of short 2-5 min clips seems to be the wave of the porn future. Its often discussed among my piers that the adult business is in trouble and their not making the butt load of cash they once did. The biz is changing and when it comes to mainstream porn the delivery system is in transition.
Film house to VHS to DVD to online porn, to OMG you can get it all free why pay for it…. which is where we are now. It truly is a business on the verge of a change, i think clips may be where its headed.
Downward spiral is better then a shame spiral
The economy is in the tank and all facets of the adult/sex biz are affected. From the dancers in the clubs, to the PSO’s, to the cam whores, to the hookers, to the porn stars. Its just like the rest of the world, expendable income has decreased, the pie is smaller and if you dont have additional skills you are likely to suffer more in this downward fucknut of a spiral we are currently living it. I’m lucky, i have skills. (and not just the ones that pay the bills) plus Ive been diversifying for a while, its called survival and not just in the sex business, I’ve been diversifying in the art world too. Like a shark i have to keep swimming. The thing that interests me most is passive income. Some way to make something once and have it pay off over and over again. Which again brings me to clips.
Get it!
I’m making clips which isn’t easy when you don’t wanna be a porn actress, i really have no desire to fuck on film. Plus am an escort that doesn’t show her face, so getting around those weird set of circumstances and difficulties will be a challenge. I might have to adjust my priorities or maybe I’ll be clever enough to figure out a way to get it done. All that remains to be seen. Once upon a time i was a hard core foot fetish model. I quite by accident found out i have very dexterous feet and could do all kinds of naughty things with them. Plus according to the feet people, my feet are pretty awesome looking. So that’s where I’m starting, with my feet. Maybe i’ll move up to other parts but right now… I’m all about feet clips. When i have enough i will open a clip store of my very own then put that advertising degree to use and market the shit out of it. That step one i my passive income quest. Step two… T-shirt store but thats another giant ball of wax to be tackled.
I’m like a terrier with a rat, a problem solver and right now the problem is passive income. Its the phrase of the year…. i wont let up until that rat is bloody and dead.
I was lucky enough to be invited to answer a few questions for the PSO spotlight feature on Sarah Does Phonesex. It was a lot of fun and Sarah is a cool chick who is not only a fun loving PSO but also very passionate about social justice. As a sex worker who often isn’t shy about voicing her political beliefs, i love that Sarah is vocal about her own beliefs and shares them along with all kinds of naughtiness. Sex workers be they PSOs, Escorts, Dommes or Cam girls are full people and i personally love when they interject a touch of real life into their websites, twitter streams, tumblrs and whatnot. Thanks Sarah for the write up… you rock!
