As an escort you sometimes have to put up with a negative client or potential client. The client that wants you to “sell” yourself to them, the kind that think you need to impress him, woo him, seduce him into booking an appointment with you. They often have a “prove it to me” attitude. These same types of guys also love to tell hot chicks at the strip club no. I think they just go to the strip club so that they can tell hot girls no, when the girls are just doing their jobs and trying to hustle dances.
I never go out of my way to book those style of potential clients, in fact just the opposite. I usually delete the email or hang up the phone. On occasion i get pissed off and say something not so nice and sometimes the reaction is a big ole pissing match between me and the once potential client. My attitude is one of you either want to book me or you don’t. I have websites, blogs, profiles, reviews, clips, tweets, ridiculous amount of photos, so if all that info isn’t enough and you still NEED me to send time hard selling myself to you, then i already know i wouldn’t like you, don’t like you and really don’t wanna spend my naked time with you, regardless if you have a hand full of cash to spend or not. Not all money is good money and spending an hour or two with that attitude is something I’d prefer to avoid. In fact id rather rearrange my sock drawer and anyone who knows me, knows i hate that.
It’s as if that guy, the “sell me guy” doesn’t really like women very much and that attitude comes pouring out with every word in an email or with every syllable on a phone call. I’m thinking it starts young, in high school or college, when they didn’t get treated by women how they think they deserve to be treated or rather how they’re entitled to be treated. It festered and now as full grown ass adults and they are resentful, entitled and often mean. They also are usually pretty pissed off they are seeing escorts to begin with. They forget its a choice. They forget they could just as easily spend their time and money wooing women into their beds who are not paid companions. However with their decided lack of charms that would require a different kind of approach. They’d have to be NICE to them because the “I’ve got the money so you have to take my bullshit attitude and still act like you like fucking me” ain’t going to work with women who are in your bed because.. and here’s the key, they want to be there. Escorts will fuck you and pretend like they want to be there because they only have to do it for an hour and then they forget you existed. Civvies.. yeah not really how they operate.
So Mr entitled asshat might actually have to be nice to them.. which of course is one of the reasons he’s banging hookers to begin with. He doesn’t have to even try to be nice or he thinks he doesn’t. Because they dont want to adjust their attitudes, they feel as if escorts are their “only” choice and that makes them mad , resentful and very hard to deal with. That guy truly treats us like whores in the process of working out his many personal issues with women in general. Oh joy of joys. Sure there are girls who will see any douchebag who screens with a fits fulla dollars. Good for her, I’ve never been that girl.
As much as i love money and we’ve well established money is what makes my panties wet, i don’t love it enough to have to spend a few hours with a blow-hard ass hat if i can help it. Show me your an ass hat off the bat and I’ll be “unavailable” , on vacation, all booked up or I’ll forget to respond. Now I’ve been tricked into sessions with asshats and I’ve sucked it up and slapped a fake smile on my face with a giggle, a hair flip and gotten though with a mantra of “its just an hour” going off over and over in my head and my client(s) were non the wiser. But i like to avoid that if at all possible. Why in a business so personal, intimate would i chose to put myself in a situation where someone isn’t nice to me where thinks so little of me, my kind or my gender that they feel entitled to treat me in a less then kind manner because they have a little extra cash. Oh i wouldn’t and no one should have to. I know its sex “work” and just as with any job, some days are better then other days but when you see the train coming you get off the fucking track. You don’t stand there let the train run you over then later try to convince yourself as your scrubbing in the shower to get the wheel grease off you it wasn’t that bad… it was that bad you just got hit by a train. Better to get off the track next time to avoid all that messy train wreck stuff.
Learning to pass up the bad money is one of the hardest things to learn working as an escort. But its important lesson to learn. It’s one of the ways I’ve managed to stay in this often difficult business for the years I have and not have to wear too much emotional damage on my sleeve.
Amen! I’m so glad I’m not the only one who’s told herself “it’s just an hour”…great post!