I was gonna leave this one alone on my blog since I’ve been commenting on it all over the innerweb on other blogs and on the article itself but I’ve been getting a lot of email so i thought i would pony on up with some thoughts on radars latest look into the sex for cash biz.
As some of you know i enjoy Radar Magazine, I’ve been Quoted in it, I’ve worked with a writer there on another possible upcoming story but the last couple of “hooker” oriented stories makes me wonder… what the hell happened to Radar? First they publish a mean spirited bunch of drivel making up a premises for Ashley Dupree’s new reality series, written by top misogynist Alex Balk. He writes of the “whores” with such spittle vigor you’d think he had a personal stake in it, or maybe just not enough Mommy love as a child.
Then Radar publishes the latest bit of wonderment about the sex for money biz titled “Secrets of a Hipster Hooker” it supposedly a first person look at the high end hooker game in NYC, where the author crosses the line and attempts to turn a trick but runs out on the client in the end (yeah i know spoiler) I swear you have a more honest look at the sex for money biz watching Harold Robbins’ mini series 79 Park Avenue. I’ve been all over the web commenting how this fluff and turn piece is just a bunch of made up BULLSHIT.
Other blogs of note are also commenting on Radars latest guffaw and have some interesting takes on the piece, making great observations. Susannah Breslin of The Frisky says “the realities of sex work are far too hardcore for most aspiring “hipster hookers” to handle” and she couldn’t be more right.
Monica of the Spread Blog goes into depth and just tears it up, in the process makes a keen observation I think the idea of putting yourself out there as a (possible) consumable piece of merchandise is gratifying, and talking about in an article is in many ways an attempt to publicly confirm your fuckability
Even the Valley Wag gets into the mix, Melissa Gira Grant reports on it by saying “She went it at like a novelist-wannabe temp showing up for a stint as a file clerk”.
Most of these tend to give the writer the benefit of the doubt and play along with her story as if its real. I still think its total and complete bullshit. Salon talks about how she wrote this piece and then shopped it around. I think they mean watched a lot of Showtime and did a little innerweb blog search, read a romance novel or two then wrote it and shopped it but hey thats just my take on it.
You think that any media outlet buying it would either…
a) Label it the fiction it is
b)FACT CHECK IT
But nooooo then how would they get their made up view of hookers. All of us making 300,00 bucks per year and keeping our money in gold bars (doesn’t everyone have a stash of gold bullion?) carrying 1,000 handbags and having great high powered day jobs. All our clients are the wealthy, young, rich, banker types who lavish us with tips in original art work by recognized artists. Then once again they force feed us the same old tired bullshit to justify and explain why young ladies get into sex work…. its empowering. ahhhhhh BULLSHIT.
Peridotash ex-escort and current Domme has a recent blog entry where she asks sex workers the Three top reasons they do what they do.. No surprise the number one answer… MONEY. Empowerment is the fantasy justification as to why some women choose to fuck for money. Its the same old line of bullshit, “its not the money, its the sex”, “I’m not money motivated…I’m just horny” :::giggle:: :::hair flip::: Anyone who has honestly talked to a hooker when shes getting off her 4th trick for the day and he was a smelly, small dicked, pushy, weasel of a man who kept tuning her nipples in like they were radio dials until they were sore, will tell you… that the empowerment angle, is utter and complete bullshit.
I have to hand it to Radar they really out did themselves on this one.. F minus!
I blame Belle De Jour. Don’t get me wrong, I just TORE through Secret Life of a Callgirl this weekend and loved it, but she made whoring sound like the most wonderful, fantastic job in the whole wide world. It was hot as hell, but about as realistic as Friends was about living in New York.
I read that Radar article and even though I’ve never turned a trick, it rang false to me too. Honestly, it just sounded like the author’s “call girl” friends were just gold-digging shallow rich girls who date high profile dudes, rather than de facto prostitutes.
If only streetwalkers could finagle book deals and the like. Or at the very least, a spot in some sort of essay collection by a diverse bunch of hookers so people don’t think it’s so glamorous.
I couldn’t agree more. Money is the main thing, and keeping eyes on the prize is the only way to make it through sometimes. There needs to be a choir of voices of reason to balance all the Hollywood-ized stories out there. Thanks for having your blog be one of those voices.
Jenny, I just penned “6 Reasons Why Secrets of a Hipster Hooker is a Steaming Pile of Horseshit”. I quoted some of your comments from radaronline.com. Please visit and add more.
PS: You rock.
Hey Jenny,
I know nothing about the industry, but there were a lot of things in that article that seemed really off to me, too. I even wondered if those escort friends of hers had gotten sick of her questions and decided to f*ck around with her by getting another woman to pretend to be a Madam and send her on a job.
Just out of curiosity, WOULD a Madam send somebody out on a $3000 job if that person had no experience as a prostitute? I don’t mean to be offensive, but if I were say, a contractor hiring a plumber for a third party, I’d expect the plumber to have done the job before. That just seems like good business sense to me, (but is it different in the escort industry?). Mind you, as you’ve pointed out, this Madam doesn’t seem to have much business sense.
P.S. By the way, your blog should be a registered Addictive Substance. I’ve already lost half my Sunday to your awesomeness! Thanks for sharing your experiences and good luck with the photographic work!
“Anyone who has honestly talked to a hooker when shes getting off her 4th trick for the day and he was a smelly, small dicked, pushy, weasel of a man who kept tuning her nipples in like they were radio dials until they were sore…” – Jenny DeMilo
So, what’s it to you if his dick is small?