The email came in like any other, a response to an ad i had placed in a city, in another state i was visiting. However i hadn’t received one like this in a while…
“need you by 9:00 pm tonight. if too much bullshit, foreget about it.”
Well where do i sign up! emails like this usually just go straight into the trash because lets be honest I’m not a hole don’t i don’t enjoy being treated as one. That’s exactly what this email does, let me break it down.
1. no salutation or greeting- devoid of using my name ( to further dehumanize me)
2. a demanding i need you by 9pm tonight inquiry (with no mention of screening info)
3. “if its to much bullshit…” (again implies screening with be an issue, in fact it implies everything will be an issue)
4. miss spelling of “forget” (to much trouble to even run a spell check)
Those are just the glaringly obvious red flags on this play. This goes deeper, there are two types of guys that send these kinds of emails and its my job to figure which camp i think this little piece of email joy fits into.
1. socially unaware – has ZERO idea of how to speak to women let alone escorts.
2. men who hate women
lets take the socially unaware guys. He sends an email with no social graces because he has none. No greeting, no reference to anything i request on my booking form, no info about himself, no reference actually reading my site, he probably didn’t. He saw a picture, he grunted and sent the email (well at least he didn’t call) If i thought the email was in this camp i could send him back an email asking for more info draw him out and see where could lead, it could turn into a successful appointment but id be aware meeting this guy in person, he would also have no social graces face to face.
Men who hate women. He hates women and treats them disrespectfully even in an email because they are all whores… yanno just like his mother. To him escorts are just a hole and you never have to be kind or polite to a hole. You don’t read a holes website to get a feel from it to see if you are a good fit, cuz all you wanna do is fit your dick in a hole. You don’t politely ask if you are available on short notice by 9pm this evening because you are in a tight schedule, you send a one line demand and add the caveat that “if” its to much bullshit “foreget” about it and you don’t even take the time to run a spell check over it, i mean why? you’re emailing a hole not a person.
It was pretty easy for me to see this email for what it was immediately and which group Mr Charm belonged to and i responded accordingly – i refuse to be treated like a hole and i will weed your dumb ass out in a heartbeat. I might be a whore but I’m not a hole and i still have and always will have the choice as to who i will share my time and body with. As much as that chaps the women haters hides i don’t care, even us whores have the right to refuse them and we do… all the time.
Darling J – it's not just the male of the species. I get it from your peers as well :(.
Makes me feel the same way as you and also depresses me … the very same women who complain are the ones who treat me the same way.
Hey J! I just read this pertinent article on Jezebel about "Love Shyness" as a possible cause for misogynistic anger – apparently someone offered this "Love Shy" phenomenon as a possible explanation for the Sodini shooting in Pittsburgh. Really, I think it's probably just a facet of social anxiety disorder, but I did find the article interesting, and I couldn't help thinking of it when I read this post.
Urgh. I've come across guys like that, too. Puts me in a foul mood, you know? Because dammit, I've got something special here! lol. Sorry you had to go through that, Honey.
As a guy, guys like that annoy the shit out of me. If he wants someone that's "no bullshit" as he calls it, let him find someone that doesn't screen, doesn't watch after themselves, etc. Odds are that the person that doesn't give him "any bullshit" may end up giving him a gift that he doesn't want.
If he wants a disposable person, let him find a blow up doll. If he wants a woman, let him treat her like one. Doesn't matter if she is a whore or someone that works in a store.
I think the most upsetting part about this is that when you turn this guy down, he'll eventually convince someone else– a woman without as much consideration for her safety and self-respect– to accept his business if she really needs the money.
Amen sister! Personally I feel, until I'm on retainer, I am not at your beck'n'call!
Being a relatively very new and novice client to a few charming escorts, I have been truly discouraged by what I've learned about many of my fellow male compatriots. Such a large percentage of Neanderthal Jerks, I had not been aware of. My sincere apologies on behalf of the male sex.
Jenny, you're a very good (and funny!) writer. Kudos to you. I've talked to enough providers in my day to get the impression that a large number of hobbyists are complete pricks. I've never understood the mentality of some of these people. But in all fairness to my gender, we evolved to have a brain and a penis…and not enough blood to work both at the same time. It's for this reason that I have this weird love/hate relationship with my member. I love it because it always stops by to say hello. I hate it because every time it does my IQ drops by 100 points and I just stand around drooling on my feet. ….sigh.
Do you know how much I commend you?
I just had to deal with this today. I asked a guy his age, he told me, and I politely told him he is too young. He responds "I don't get it, money is money." I tried to give him a chance but he did what most young men do. He was blatantly nasty with his questions and tried to haggle! After being respectful in telling him i'm not interested, he proceeded to insult me…woman hater! I told him I have the freedom to choose who I want to sleep with, and he just went on this rant. God! I know what I do and I know who I want to do it with. At the end he says "your loss". Yea…my loss. Lol. I empathise with you!
Excellent post! I expect mutual respect, and a good start is a salutation and signing the message. I hate caveman grunting.