Femdom Hypnosis And Me

hypnotic-1I’m focusing on femdom hypnosis or more commonly known as erotic hypnosis. You may have noticed old sites of mine are disappearing. That is by design. Ive been a sex worker for a long time. Ive run the gamut, i’ve done a lot of things that some people may think exciting and others might be horrified by. I am neither, its simply who i am and what ive done. Escorting to me was always a job it had good days and it had bad days much like any other job. I liked the lifestyle, i liked making rent in one night. I was well suited to making strangers feel special, i had a knack for it. I was an outlaw, i lived off the grid. Now… not so much. Though im a still a sex worker i work on the legal side of things now. I am a hypno-domme… a erotic recording artist. As such my focus has shifted, that doesnt mean i don’t care deeply for the rights of sex workers no matter which ball field they play in because i do. That doesnt mean that i don’t get blindly angry when i see some hack journalist conflates sex work with human trafficking because i do. That doesn’t mean i don’t see red when some well meaning simpleton thinks they know whats best for all sex workers and will force their morality down our thoughts so they can get a ego boost or a pat of the back, because  i do. However one cant push that boulder up that hill forever just as one cant fuck for money forever. I did get burned out and i did “retire” I no longer meet strangers and spend my time trying to make them feel special for cash. Those days are long gone but they will never be forgotten.

Now if you want a tasty bite of Jenny it will have to be an audio recording of my voice…. echoing in your head.

 

Gumroad, paved with bad intentions

The road to hell and all…
As  a creator of adult content I’m always looking for new platforms and ways to sell my content. When Gumroad was brought to my attention it perked up my ears and I delved in to it to see f it was compatible with what I was doing. I read over the FAQs and the TOS and there was no restriction on adult content. Gumroad fees are 5% of the sale price plus .25 per transaction. At the end of they month if you have over 10 bucks in your Gumroad account they Paypal you your earnings. In the non adult world thats not exactly a bargain, in the adult world its well worth the time to look into this more. When you sell your work though clips sites they often take a very hefty chunk of your cash but clip sites also also bring traffic, Gumroad doesn’t, with Gumroad you need to bring your own traffic to the table.

Step one was done. That’s always the most frustrating step because makers of adult content are excluded from so many places. (Yeah, I know we have cooties) Step two was to test it out. I began in  Aug 2012 uploading a handful of  MP3 files and placing the links to them on my Mistress Demilo website. I get a lot of people searching for hypnosis mp3s from that sites so I though it would be a good test. I made a couple of sales. I waited until the end of the month and the transfer of funds was made. It went smooth. I did this for a couple more months adding a blurb about Gumroad to my monthly newsletter to my customers and asked them for feedback if they purchased products though them, I also wrote blog posts about how you could get some files though Gumroad and I diligently used the Gumroad dashboard feature of tweeting my content to my close to 4k+ followers on twitter. It’s worth noting  that feature automatically adds an @gumroad to its tweets. More files were bought, end of the month more smooth transactions were made.

In Oct I decided to expand with Gumroad, I had tested them out and all went well time to do more with this new platform to sell on. I added the ability to buy though Gumroad to two more of my websites, both Sissy slut hypnosis and Erotic femdom hypnosis, I devised a marketing campaign around Gumroad, I made a few files exclusive to Gumroad and my sites for the month of October. As a result of this added time and effort my Gumroad sales went up about 400% maybe a little more.  I was pretty excited about the progress. I tweeted to and told other ladies who I know sell content about Gumroad encouraging them to check them out. I waited for my transfer of funds at the end of the month. It didn’t come.

I made sales on December 1st (2) but never got a notice that my money was transferred.  On December 2nd I couldn’t access my account, it would say “logging in” but it never connected. I had a bad feeling. My better half told me I was panicking to early, though hes very sensitive to sex worker issues, until you walk a mile in a sex workers shoes you cant know what its like to have that powerless feeling that arises when your gut tells you someone is disrespecting you or taking advantage because if what you do for a living. I tweeted at Gumroad that i couldn’t access my account.  In the afternoon when i still couldn’t access my account i investigated further, I found that Gumroad was up and running for other people, that other peoples items were still for sale on Gumroad and that links to my content was met with 404 errors. I also checked my public profile and though it was there there was no content listed available.

I sent in a email to support informing them of all this including the info that i hadn’t received any funds on the 1st. I was met with radio silence.

I waited 24 hours, still nothing. I sent in a second email this time I found the email address of the founder ( a 19 year old wunderkind of some sort the media tells me) Sahil Lavingia and sent him a note too just in case my gut as wrong and they were experiencing a bigger database or email issue. Hell it had been even suggested to me that maybe they had fired their IT or support person and were scrambling.

A little over an hour later I got a response. A two line email telling me my account had been suspended for “Illicit” content. No mention of the money they owed me, nothing addressing any of my questions just a curt yup, we deleted you. Let me break this down.

Illicit means Illegal, they were telling me they shut me down and from my perspective were going to keep my funds because my content was Illegal. Which of course its not. Its adult, its mature, its erotic but its not Illegal. I wrote Gumroad back a rather not nice email telling them  such asking them for my money and accusing them of stealing. I then assumed I would need to get a lawyer in involved. I re-read Gumroads TOS and they had changed as of Nov 19th. it looked to me a catch all for deleting accounts had been added “otherwise objectionable”  If your content was “otherwise objectionable” well that’s a pretty wide net. Translation “for any reason” including no reason at all or because you have red hair and gingers are scary. But sir i object!

This is why you don’t do business with 19 year olds. Who runs a business like this? Who thinks its okay to treat their customers like this. Is this how everyone is treated by Gumroad? No its not, they have good feedback, this is how Jenny DeMilo Sex worker was treated by Gumroad. I felt discriminated against, I felt powerless. Gumroad had my money and closed down my account, my inquires were met with silence and only after tracking down the founders email did I get any response at all and that was unacceptable in any business. Just because I’m a creator of erotica does not mean you are allowed to treat me any different then if my name was John Smith and I sold post it notes to the PTA. Business is business. Not for Gumroad though for them this is acceptable.

I then received an email from a customer who told me all the purchases he made of my content though Gumroad were suddenly refunded. Refunded with out my consent and not by any request from the customer.

What  the motherfucking hell is that! Who does that. What business school did these morons drop out of.  Who thinks they have the right to refund My money to My customers with out MY consent. My products were delivered, my customers happy but Gumroad though yanno they could give away my content for free. Gumroad had clearly forgotten their role in this arrangement.  Shady Shady Shady.  I started thinking that yep a law suit was definitely in Gumroads future. Because though I might just be a little guy, a small business and a sex worker, I am not going to allow you to steal my hard heard money from me. That is not an option.

Then the next Gumroad email comes though, this time obviously written by someone who had at least taken a class on customer service. it started with an apology which is customer service 101. It went on to tell me my funds would be transferred in 24 hours and that no they didn’t think my content was illegal but that they couldn’t handle “some kinds” of adult material. That once an account had been “flagged” by their user base, it was gone. Well whoopdie fucking doo. My guess is their lawyer told them to pay the fuck up and that some idiot over there refunded my clients in a panic. They did the transfer in 24 hours and get this they even tossed in some extra cash as an oops we deleted your account with out notice and then were stupid about how to deal with you kinda bribe or something. Though it’s always nice to get a few extra free bucks…WTF. I wonder how that little item reads on their balance sheet.

So there ya have it, Gumroad is a great idea but its run by people who make terrible decisions, treat their customers like crap and have zero idea how to handle business. Oh as a side not they use Stripe for their platform. Stripe takes .30 a transaction and 2.9 on each sale so Gumroad is working on a pretty thin margin. Oh Stripe clearly states in their TOS no pornography. Gumroad neglected to incorporate Stripes TOS in their own. Another really bad business decision. Gumroad is run like a teenager who’s never had to think beyond himself. Impulsive, never thinking a situation though to its conclusion. Though i’m sad it all went down like this I had high hopes working with them and had invested a lot of time and effort to make something out of it.  I’m sure my next months sales would have increased more then the 400% the last months sales had, and I’m pissed I was treated so poorly, as a business person I would never do business with a company like this. They will limp along but I cant be the only person who has had such horrible dealing with Gumroad. Im just not that special. They will run themselves into the ground or lose their financing. Though it might be cute to invest some bucks into a 19 year old “wiz kid” who is basically just making Stripe easier to use for more money, I find it hard to imagine any VC giving more money over to a group of kids who haven’t the first fucking clue about how to treat a customer. Oh as of this post my Gumroad Profile  is still active.

Dont worry little lady

Next… Billboards!
Advertising is always tricky when you’re a sex worker. When I was escorting it was a monthly headache to figure out which sites to give my very hard earned cash to. Always trying to get the most bang for your advertising buck. Escort advertising is veryexpensive, it can be cost prohibitive and you have to be smart about it. No one wants to spend hundreds of dollars every month for no return and though no website can guarantee you business, they can give you an idea of their traffic stats to help you make an informed decision.

Now that most of my advertising is aimed at my fetish clip business, I’m always looking for new ways and places to branch out and put myself and my fetish product in front of new audiences. My advertising budget every month is small, I’m an indie clip and femdom hypnosis recording  producer who makes enough money to pay all my bills and my bills include food and board for my 4 year old ex racehorse.  I do alright though I wouldn’t say I’m rolling in it like some of my peers who specialize in financial domination, those ladies clean up! I started to look at new places to advertise last week and shot off a few emails to a few websites asking for information. Pricing structures, traffic stats, the typical info you would need to start making a decision. Choosing an untried place to buy ads is always stressful because there’s a good chance it will not pay off in any meaningful way. There is always trial and error involved.  I like to do a cost benefit analysis and lay out some expectations for myself  when making a decision on where to spend my ad cash. I come from the very real world of cutthroat advertising, but even if I didn’t have a background in advertising its business 101 and though I do have a bod for sin, I also have a brain for business.

Why is it websites insist on treating you like you are just some dumb girl who shouldn’t worry her pretty little head over things like potential impressions and traffic expectations? I find it more frequent with fetish directed websites than adult sites in general. Maybe its because adult in general is big  business in this world so if yo hit up an ad sales manager for a major adult website they are more then happy to ply you with loads of information to try to get you to chose them to give your money to. Not so much with fetish driven sites, getting info is like pulling teeth and it usually comes with a big helping of attitude. Its a pet peeve of mine, not because I’m a Dominatrix and I think the world should respect me for my existence but because I’m a business person who is trying to make smart decisions. Just like the dudes over a Goldman Sachs and the dudes in Atlanta trying to sell the world  a Coke© I’m no different just on a much smaller scale.  Maybe someday people will understand that just because it’s the sex business and I’m in it doesn’t mean I’m a dumb broad who is a mark to be taken advantage of. When that kind of attitude comes from a support service it reinforces that as long as we’ve come there still so much further to go. So I march on. Hearts and minds people … hearts and minds.

Goat Fucking Thieves

Stealing isnt nice
When people steal my content it hurts me. It hurts my bottom line and it hurts my creativity. It makes me want to raise my prices, to counter balance the money I lose on content thievery and it makes me want to stop producing content in certain niches where self proclaimed subs and slaves steal my content and swap it around like spit at a spin the bottle game. Telling me all the while how much they wanna you serve me and then steal from me at every opportunity. That makes you a goat fucking thief not a sub or a slave, or even a nice little perv who’s just looking to get his rocks off it makes you a thief and  you sure as fuck are not “serving” me when you steal my hard work. I don’t owe you jerk of material, in fact i dont owe you anything. I make a product, if your interested in it, buy it. Its quality stuff, I care, i put in the effort when i make it.

When you file share my work, I do find out about it, In a lot of cases I can trace back the specific file and I know which site it was bought from and get this my little goat fucking thieves most of the time, I can obtain your legal name. I have been known to send off a cease and desist letter to a goat fucking thief to their legal address and legal name, well… really to Mr and Mrs goat fucking thief. Maybe you don’t want your wife to know you love to suck cock,  how much you want to be pimped out like a whore or that you secretly shove giant dildo’s up your ass dressed up in frilly baby clothes. If you steal from me,if you take food off MY table, that might not be a secret I feel obligated to keep.

Admit it, youre a goat fucker
Keep that in mind next time you think hey no big deal if i give away to 400 people a 20.00 Mistress DeMilo  file. freeloading wanna be subs. Seriously how about I come to your place of business and take money out of your McDonald’s paycheck.

Oh and to my lovely wonderful considerate and helpful perverts who keep me in the loop on stolen files, you are my favorite little pets and i will continue to show you the attention and the occasional favor  you so rightly deserve for keeping me in the loop. You truly warm my cold black bitter heart.

Serious wallet rape.. err assault

So on occasion i do a little financial domination, mostly i keep it to hypnosis Mp3s. I am a money grubbing greedy whore but findom isn’t a specialty I indulge in very often. I was inspired to do a little wallet rape MP3 and actually call it Serious Wallet Rape” Wallet rape isn’t about rape, its about taking money from someone to dominate them not about sexual assault. However when you’re making fetish content many clip sites are hyper sensitive to certain words… even when they are used in a proper context to convey their alternative meaning.  As we all know words often do have two meanings. So though they MP3 is the same anywhere you get it, the name of the MP3 is different. When you buy direct from me its called “Serious Wallet Rape” when you get it from one of my many clip studios like Clippette  or Clips4sale you will see “rape” was replaced with “assault” Cie la vie .. I love both those clip sites and far be it for me to bring any unwanted heat to them because of one little word…