Client Vrs Hobbyist

Hookers are your freinds

Lots of different guys like to screw hookers. They are from every walk of life, every income bracket, every race, creed or color. There’s no way to single out a group of men and say ” those guys dont/haven’t/never will bang a hot chick in exchange for cash” they all do it, have done it, will do it. You cant divide them into groups.. you can however sub categorize them. Now the common term for pay for play companionship for those in the subculture is… “the hobby” yep fucking hookers is now a hobby, yanno like building model cars or collecting stamps. The common term for a man who fucks hookers on the regular is a “hobbyist” yep hes just engaging in a little fun past time like building a ship in a bottle. Though i dont like either of those terms i use them because they have become the lingo of the culture and its just easier (hey I’m lazy) I however am no fan and have made it no secret that I’m no fan of … the hobbyist. Don’t get me wrong i love men who fuck hookers. Hey they keep me employed and put food on my table. I like to call those men, clients. A client is a man who screws hookers. A hobbyist is a man who not only screws hookers but delves so deeply in the culture of fucking hookers that they think it makes them special… that they fuck hookers.

Newsflash: hookers get paid to screw you, its not like its a hard thing to make happen. It sure as fuck doesn’t make you special because you have a spare 300-1500 bucks for a little pay to play nookie. Its like the guy who thinks because hes got 150 to spend on a limo to go out to the club that that some how makes him special and not a douche-bag. Really hes trying to impress other people with his means and that’s what hobbyists do, spend a shit load of time trying to impress others  that hes special because he fucks hookers, spends his days posting on message boards about fucking hookers, back channeling (normal people call this gossip and sabotage) about hookers and finally writing review, after review, after review about fucking hookers. Like who ever has the most reviews of fucking hookers gets into heaven first or something. It often looks obsessive.

She stroked my fur until i purred all over her

As a hooker with reviews i try to keep them to a manageable amount, i dont want every encounter detailed in all it’s hot sweaty glory for all the world to read. I want just enough so that potential clients know I’m legitimate, that i provide what i say i do and that I’m currently working. So when a client asks me if i would like them to write a review as they are walking out my hotel door, i usually just say “not unless you really want to”. Most of my clients are way too busy with lives outside of their hooker fucking pastime to sit down and detail how tight my pussy is anyways.

A hobbyist will always write a review. As I’ve said before its more fun if you get to brag about it after. Or if you get to slam a girl after you’ve paid to fuck her. Cuz really whats more fun then taking out your buyers remorse on someone who just sucked your cock and made you cum. Now there’s nothing wrong with being a steady reviewer but when you mix that with a constant hooker message board presence you get, “he hobbyist”. One who not only writes a review for everything but think hes an authority on all things hooker related. A hobbyist loves to tell hookers how to run their business as if someone who shells out cash for sex knows what its like to be on the other side of the fence. They dont, but they will tell you how to do everything from to market your business to how to suck a dick. Seriously they will. The will also pedal their “guidance”and curry favor, pass you around to their group of old dog friends, and work and work and work for that freebie they are all looking for. Ahhh to be the hobbyist flavor of the month, my skin is crawling just thinking about it.

A client, pays his fee, spends his time with you and then goes home to his life … because he HAS one.

Clients are the goal

Clients are what escorts want, they are low drama, they don’t demand discounted or free services because you are running 15 mins late, they call when they are going to be late. They don’t threaten you with their stature on a message board to get you to provide a service you don’t want to, They don’t stand you up after weeks of planning then blow it off because what are you gonna do complain and if you do that they will just hit the men’s only website and call you names and blah blah blah about you… Clients treat you well and are respectful of you and your time. Clients treat you like people they like, who are providing a service they want. Hobbyists are douchebags with limo mentality who more and more seem to not like women very much. It seems they are working out their mommy, wifey, or ex girlfriend  who fucked them over issues by screwing and trying to manipulate as many hookers as they can on message boards.

I was personally involved with a man who enjoyed fucking hookers for years. He was never a hobbyist, he was always a client to them. I would never date a hobbyist, yanno unless his hobby was golf or something.

Demagoguery and the message board hobbyist

Have you no shame?

Websters defines Demagoguery like this:

Main Entry: 1dem·a·gogue
Variant(s): also dem·a·gog
Function: noun
Etymology: Greek dēmagōgos, from dēmos people 
Date: 16481 : a leader who makes use of popular prejudices and false claims and promises in order to gain power
We see this happen all the time, a hobbyist who writes a lot of reviews  and who the other dudes look up to for intel on hookers, a mod who spends why to much time “moderating” message boards, board posters who spend hours upon hours raising their post count because they feel as if it gets them some kinda notoriety.  Trying to make themselves popular, powerful, large and in charge of the world surrounding the hooker message board. When a popular message board went off line and reemerged in a new incarnation recently, there was a whole bunch of people who were truly upset that they had lost their post count. As if how many times they commented on “what is a gfe” or “shaved or not shaved pussy” matters for something. Well to them it did, the post count made them a leader, an expert in the field of whoredom. At least in their own eyes.

Big fish, or big tits. You decide.

The feel they have power and I suppose in their small pond they might be considered a big fish by some smaller minnows. Then you can always watch it take a turn for the crazy into Demagogue land. They are looked up to by their minnows in the pond and they start to use that admiration to further grab power in any way they can. Usually these are they types that feel powerless in the real live world, who make the mad dash for power on a message board. The types that are not looked up to out side of the online world. But online…. they think they are someone special. How many times has an escort heard “i can make and break your career” by some dude? Lots. How many times has an escort been threatened with a bad review?  Lots. Hell even I  was just recently threatened by some freak on a message board that he was going to give  me a “spike” in blog hits because he didn’t like something in said in a private conversation. (BTW I’m still waiting for that spike you said you were able to deliver, when is it going to get here? I don’t got all day)

'Cause Your Crystal Ball Ain't So Crystal Clear

If they feel it will up their cache, they will have no issue with an attempt to ruin a providers reputation, especially some uppity whore with a big mouth, or some uppity whore out of their price range, or some uppity whore that doesn’t have their preferred body style. They can always find some uppity whore to try to tear down as they try to build themselves up.  I mean whores are to service them, to be how THEY want them to be, they aren’t not real people.  It’s easy to sway a bunch of dudes who have issues with women, that women are bad. If they are predisposed to the idea, then a few well planted words on a “men’s only” website or a few back channel whispers, they feel will do the trick. They not only get to denigrate who ever is the uppity whore of the moment but they get to be raised in the esteem of the minnows which in turns gives them more cache and what they think is power plus, they get granted the moniker of super hobbyist!

Anything for a little power grab when you’re dealing with the hooker world. Ethics? They don’t have any, forethought? Well, you’d need actual thought for that. The hobbyist demagoguery is unleashed and runs rampant. They pontificate and use their slight of hand to further make that long climb up what they believe to be the hobby ladder. They cant wait to get to the top rung where they can wield their immense power to make the minnows and whores do their bidding and they will do it by manipulating people using their own bias and prejudices against them.  Classic… textbook… demagoguery.

Pussy Power Activate!

However, that’s not power. The dirty little secret is that the hookers really have the power because they have the pussy. Power of the pussy will always trump some socially retarded, unaccomplished, egomaniacal, loser who spends too much time thinking about, posting about, talking about and trying to control a bunch of hookers on a message board.

H. L. Mencken defined a demagogue as “one who will preach doctrines he knows to be untrue to men he knows to be idiots.” Yup that pretty much sums it up.

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Too fucking busy, and vice versa

Hit click and send, that will show um

I recently had some downtime so i started to check in with some hooker message boards to see what was going on. True I have checked in with them before but I have not been posting on them. I haven’t had time and really sometimes the amount of stupid runs so rampant that it gets frustrating. So over the last few days I’ve been posting and reading.  Nothing’s changed, its still full of stupid and its still frustrating. From the dudes always posting about how to get a freebie, to the girls posting veiled advertisements on boards where that kinda thing isn’t allowed, to Mods throwing their considerable weight around. It was like a time machine. I started to get agitated like i did when i was a regular board poster. I banged my head against the wall when trying to explain in a post  how to consider sources when evaluating information as a way to weed out good info and bad info. Something most people understand in Jr high and which to most people is a no brain-er when using their critical thinking skills but not on a hooker message board where critical thinking skills are often few and far between.

Post whore? Or real whore? You decide

This went on for a few days when a friend brought up to me “when did the hobby  become about posting on message boards and not fucking”  first of all i hate calling it “the hobby” but that’s what every calls it so i will play along but really when did the subculture of hookers and tricks loose the aspect of fucking? When did it become about post counts and upping ones hobbyist cache and not about picking out a lady of your choice and having your way with her for a few hard earned bucks. When did the hobby become ….

retarded high school.

Multitasking like i have 10 arms

I admit I’m not immune to be sucked into the bullshit, over the last few days i totally got sucked in. My stress level started to rise, petty arguments of things that didn’t matter started to get under my skin. I would spend way to much time marveling at the stupidity of others. before i knew it i was full fledged posting again on a board i had taken an unannounced sabbatical from because it ceased to be fun to post and because i was too busy fucking to be posting.

Ah hah! There’s the key… i had a few days of downtime i forgot that message boards are often on the level with and feel like you’re attending a  retarded high school and i dove right in without thinking! Doh! Thankfully my work schedule is about to heat way up. I mean seriously way up. I not only have major deadlines upcoming, a tour to plan, media deals to refine and work on but  I also have a hot and sexy man to visit on the other coast where I will really get the fucking in. The next few months are going to be wicked busy but hopefully full of exciting new adventures that keep me too busy to fall into the trap message board bullshit.

I'd rather be hot for teacher

If you  ever begin missing high school, if you get nostalgic for “the good ol’ days” then i suggest you register for and participate in a message board near you. That experience will make anyone wanna run into the arms of a willing partner for some one on one action to help wipe the memory of the experience away.

Less posting and more fucking that’s going to be my new motto. I mean id rather do it then post about it anyways… i’m funny like that.

Act II, Scene II

Freebies its whats for breakfast...NOT

I recently had an exchange with another provider on a message board that got me thinking. The subject was simple, some bone head hobbyist posted asking the question. How many times do you have to visit a provider before she will fuck you for free. (always some schmuck on a message board looking for a freebie) It got the typical response from both men and women, which was don’t be a ass-hat providers charge for fucking.  I added my two cents and asked the poster when was the last time HE worked for free and then suggested if he was looking to get laid for free that he tap his wife or try his luck using all that charm he displayed at a local bar.

You would think that would have been the end of it.. this poor dude did get quite the beat down from everyone.. well almost everyone.

It happens a lot and its happens in this poor economy more often then it should but there is always some provider who thinks if she wiggles up to the hobbyist point of view, even if that point of view is detrimental to providers in general and then tries to reshape the conversation she can turn the discussion into marketing her services and away from the discussion in general.

Chicken suits, marketing gold mines

So in this case this provider, who i referred to as a  hooker but she took offence to that, (hey a rose by another name.. but whatever) stated her views that working for free was commonplace in the “real world” and that she didn’t see anything ridiculous about a hooker fucking her clients for free. Though on its face when you don’t charge for sex your not a hooker but I’ll leave that alone. Now i saw this for exactly what it was, a ploy. It’s been done over and over and by those more skilled then this chick. The idea is to get the men to side with her “see that chick thinks freebies are ok!”  in the hopes they will book with her cuz you never know when that “free session” will happen. I mean shes already said she doesn’t think there is anything wrong with it and that implication is that she does give it away for free. I like to call this the message board “look at me, look at me” post. Now you can bet your sweet ass this hooker …errr provider wont be giving away any free sessions  but some poor slob is going to fall for it. So is it good marketing? Possibly, she might get a session or two out of it. However it does a greater disservice to her fellow providers in the fact that shes trying to reshape the message in hopes of getting a extra session and not thinking about what that reshaped message is and how it will not only affect herself in the future but her sisters in arms. Now lots of chicks don’t give two shits about other providers, id id be willing to bet this hooker is in that camp, however she shouldn’t be so short fucking sighted.

A hooker advocating for free sessions? Does she really wanna have that fight alone in a hotel room  when a bigger stronger client who has invested time and money in her and decides that its now time for his free session?

Hey if some dumb hooker wants to devalue her product and give away what she sells at a premium its her prerogative but that’s the kinda shit you keep under raps so it doesn’t bite you in the ass down the road. So you’re not known as the “free session” girl. Or have to fend off someone who heard from someone else back channel that you gave it to your other client and now hes entitled. Cuz we all know how much hobbyist back channel, hell they even have a site CALLED backchannel.

...If you can get the milk for free

Oh and once you give it away .. they will never pay for it again. You’ve just made your product worth what they paid for it… nothing.