Grunt, scratch balls and grunt again

Youre about this subtle
I recently read a blog by a feisty redheaded colleague of mine about why top tier experienced escorts are leaving the business and her take wasn’t the economy, it was dealing with idiot clients or those that wished to become them. I think shes right, the bullshit has increased. Maybe because escorting is more accessible to the masses so there’s a bigger pool of numb nuts who spend their time sending out inquiries. I don’t know the why of it but i know it happens. A recent inquiry i got seemed to fit right in with this theory. I was contacted via a screening service, the potential client had seen a couple other legit girls (though their rates were a quarter of mine)  and they had vouched for his legitimacy. That’s always a good thing but this is the email he sent… verbatim.

“Just arriving in town and looking for a grerat time before I leave. Looking for a 2-3hr. appt. with trips to the Greek Isles if possible. Outcall if possible… dOUBLES ALSO IF POSSIBLE”

Oh take me away prince charming. I really am worth you at least running a spell check over your inquiry as i don’t generally provide “grerat” times. I’m spelling challenged myself but at least put in the bare minimum of effort, no one wants to deal with a lazy client, and you just showed me you are in fact lazy. Also what’s with the capricious capitalization on the thing about the doubles? Does it being mostly in all caps mean that its really, really important i bring another chick with me? The obvious glaring problem with this email is that this potential client uses stupid code for anal sex thinking that somehow that will circumvent the need for discretion. It doesn’t. You can say it what ever super secret code you like, its still being indiscreet and its really fucking annoying to get that kind of email from a complete stranger whom you have never communicated with before. The second issue is of course there no dates associated. Oh sure stranger who just broke escorting inquiry rule number one I’m free all the time, 24/7 at your convenience, I’m really hoping you will pay me money to stick your dick in my pooper and I’ll bring a random friend!

Now i know I’m being nit picky to some degree but if you have done any amount of research on me especially to the point where you are ready to make an inquiry to possibly spend some naked time then you should be well aware that i don’t usually let people nail me in the backdoor … yanno unless i’m married to you. Also that rule number one is discretion and discretion isn’t just I’ll not look like a 3 dollar whore when i show up to your 5 star hotel, its that you don’t ask me to exchange sex for money …. in email, on the phone or in person. I don’t care if you have a million other girls you banged vouch for you you. Screening services have all been infiltrated at one time or another to some degree they are not 100% fool proof.  Don’t do it, don’t ask for sex in an inquiry. We all know why we are here, you pay, i provide. If you need it spelled out for you then you are looking for trouble! If you need to know about anal sex then do some research and find my reviews that are floating on the tubes and viola! You are now informed. If you cant do that i would guess the proliferation of the word GFE in association with myself all over my website with never a mention of PSE might be your first fucking clue.

I did write this potential client back with a link to my screening form, asked for dates/times and emphasized my GFE nature. Of course i heard not a word back. Because this guy was either a cop, a time waster or just your every day dick in your hand dumbass hobbyist, none of which i want to hang out with in any capacity.

Ripped Off

getting ripped off!
A civvie friend of mine, from way before high school, I’ve pretty much known him all my life tells me he’s broken up with his girlfriend and is thinking about seeing a hooker. Now the funny thing is this friend of mine doesn’t know I’m a escort! He  knows I work as a Pro Domme, he knows I know something about the sex business and that I’m open minded and have never judged him about anything.

I give him the low down, I tell him how not to get ripped off. How to cross check reviews to ads, where to look for reviews, what mall sites to look on, how to check phone numbers, reputations, web presence and most of all how to spot a fake, a rip off and an bait an switch agency… We talk about his desire to see an escort, why he wants to see one, what kinda experience he’s looking for… yadda yadda yadda.

He takes none of my advice. He calls two girls after midnight, off Backpage, who show up with two bulky bald bad ass drivers and they pretty much rob him of over 400 bucks with the “whole were not hookers were dancers”, “all this money goes to the agency if you want more you have to pay more” never to provide any service standard operating Los Angeles bait and switch agency procedure, the full experience  i tried to teach him how to avoid.

Since I’m one of his oldest friends and he mine he did tell me about his rip off experience also throwing in that “wow you really know your stuff, it happened just like you had said it would” no shit Sherlock!  Then the question came,  he asked me how I knew so much. I responded with “I just know things” and i left it at that, he didn’t press me. Though he’s probably one of the people I could tell I was an escort and had been one for years I just wasn’t up to the whole confess and tell all the stories kinda conversations I know id be in for if I fessed up to my secret life. I did try to scare him a little because i didn’t want him to try again and not take my advice and put himself in a bad situation. Especially when there are so many awesome legit women working in LA he’d have a good experience with.

no bj, no hj, no sex
As another friend of mine said.. being ripped off is part of the process. I guess it is.  My good friend who had the inside track did everything he could to be ripped off, he went out of his way to get ripped off. Maybe because it was reinforcing to himself how he shouldn’t be banging hookers, who knows really but so many guys are not smart about seeing hookers, i cant even begin to count the number of clients who told me about their rip off story when they first started down the paid companionship road. Usually they only get ripped off once, then they get smart about it.. So maybe it is part of the process in paying for sex, it really could be.

I told my friend that the next time he had the urge to give away his money that he could just write me a check… he laughed but I was serious.

Southwest Companions Compromised

Compromised
Another escort review/message board went down in flames yesterday. This time southwest companions. Though the site is still up and apparently live. The owner of the small board was arrested in New Mexico on 40 counts of promoting prostitution. The media is having a frenzy as always and calling it a “prostitution ring” Which of course the site isn’t. Its a review board and message board like so many across the nation.Southwest Companions was a private board, the general public wasn’t welcome. You had to be referenced in to get access to the message board, reviews etc. Just like so many smaller boards. Make no mistake about it southwest companions is a very small message board in the grand scheme of escort message boards.It serviced a small and targeted area.

The site is compromised, and im guessing it will go down as soon as Go Daddy who hosts it gets the correct paper work to take it down. In reading all the info i can and putting my feelers out it appears that a “trusted” member was not really so trusted but a member of law enforcement who infiltrated the site by being referenced in. Likely and according to the media someone busted, worked with LE to help arrest the owner by legitimizing a cop.  I’ve been a long advocate of not going by message board sanctions of who is “trustworthy” and this is just another example of how easy those boards can be compromised. You can not let someone else do your screening and that’s what all these boards calling people “trusted” does. A local board here in LA there was a brutal rapist listed as “trusted” a man currently in jail on federal drug charges and who was arrested for conspiracy to commit murder was a high level “trusted” member long after his incarceration. Ive written before about the long time reviewer in Moco county that flipped and granted his access to law enforcement to many different kinds of boards that served the escort community and that shut down working in that area for months.

Though message boards can seem to be safe places for people of like mind to hook up you can not rely on them and must screen yourself. Be you a client or a provider. The only person you can trust is YOU. Any system can be infiltrated. In this case they spent 6 months building a case, to take down a site/board owner of a small essentially “meet up” site. My guess is that if the owner gets a good lawyer and doesn’t buckle to the pressure to plead out that he will beat this case. Its not a “ring” its a virtual meet and greet, this guy didn’t run girls (to the best of my knowledge) he provided a place for people to make their own connections. Reviews have always been problematic and here’s another reason why I dont like them. They can and will be used against you in a court of law, they can and will be used to arrest you. In this case they were used to arrest a message board owner and arrest him on 40 counts.

Flipped

Flip for me baby

It happened, a well known”hobbyist” a prolific reviewer, a big man on campus, a big swinging dick, a whore fucker beyond all whore fuckers got busted, then he flipped and cried like a little girl. He didn’t just flip,  he went above and beyond. He gave access to his personal profile on a national review site (and who knows how many other not national review sites) he handed over his access to screening services and he give the cops his access to  private men’s only sections and the jewel of the popos bust…  he gave them access to a private mens only website. You know the one, where they spend the bulk of their time calling escorts fat, overpriced and collud on ways to manipulate and control them.  No one liked it when you found you website was linked to that cesspool of misogyny, now it seems El Flipo has given the popo a perfect excuse to go after other hobbyists and try to enlist the help of escorts to do so.

Law Enforcement has put out official statements on their website, they have spoken to the media, they have taken out backpage ads that  listed names and handles of “hobbyists” they would like more info on. I know for a fact that at least some of those names match those handles.  The have asked for the help of women who feel they have been abused at the hands of these men. They invoke the dreaded trafficking as a way inside to gain support. This whiny little bitch gave the police everything they needed. Access and viable reason.

Mr. Flip really fucked over his “brethren” on this one.  I guess its not really “bros before hos”  which is so often invoked in that crowd. Its more like save your own skin and fuck over everyone else. This turn of events isn’t just fucking over his fellow whore mongers, he’s also fucked over the ladies as well.

I have 300 white listings

I would guess (and i have heard rumors) that they didn’t pop said Flip-a-roney on a scant misdemeanor solicitation of prostitution charge. When the  popo go after the ladies they usually try to up the charge with an add on, like drugs. Get the girl to supply them and wham they have something to work with. Cuz really who’s going to sing over a 100 buck ticket in most states. Mr Flip being such a seasoned “hobbyist” would know this and i doubt he would bring the party to the party. So there’s more to this. Rumors abound that he was caught with an underage. Still more that he wasn’t just trading reviews of escorts for service (a rumor that has been following him around for a long time) but that he actually was running the girls. Well BAM! Now that would make a weak minded fucktard sing. Pimping, pandering, promoting prostitution. Were talking federal here.

So once again some guy cant be satisfied with fucking a hot girl in exchange for a little cash. He’s got to get in on the deal, and action. Hes got to grab cash and more likely he wanted the power. The power of influence over his fellow whore fucker and the power of “i can make and break” you over the ladies.. not to mention all the access to free pussy.

What a fucking dirt bag.

Be safe ladies

Hes blemished our screening services and white list services. I personally will not be using them right now. Why risk it. He’s given the cops access and who knows who they contacted and flipped. He’s blemished the reference system (who knows how far reaching that will go)  Booking a “well known hobbyist” in MD VA and DC right now is just asking to be busted.  Our traditional screening methods are rendered inoperative. You can not rely on them. He’s really done a disservice to all those he spent countless hours trying to become “king” of.

If you’re in the infected area then think about not working there right now. If you cant do that then you must be extremely careful until this all shakes out. If you rely on references, find another way, if you rely on screening services, find another way, if you rely on seeing people known to the community, find another way.

And to think they bitch and moan about escorts and their need to be safe and all our safety measures but when one of their own gets caught up he spill his guts like the bitch he is. People want to know why i don’t like “hobbyists” well that’s why. I don’t like men who want to insinuate themselves into the realm of escort business because it never ends well for US. They either want to control and manipulate us, or they fuck us over and sometimes they do both. Isn’t that right El Flipo.

Just fuck the whore, pay her and go home.

*no I’m not providing links, not only were people outed but i don’t want my site viewed on stat trackers

**and a big hello to all my new readers on private boards big and small across the nation

Deceitful pretenses

Let me tell you what i know...

There has been a rash “escort blogs” handing out bad advice. Self proclaimed insiders blogging anonymously, meaning they are not blogging under their “working names” so their inclusion into the business cant be verified. What can be verified though, is they are handing out bad advice to both clients and sex workers.

This kinda thing really irks me and i try to debunk the crap when confronted by it but it gets exhausting when i see smart people in the business just taking this crap on face value because it has the word “escort” or “sex worker” attached to it. Did the fauxho scandal of last year not teach us anything? I’m often amazed at how a group of people so in tune with their inner bullshit detector can be so gullible because someone puts “escort” on their blog title. I’m talking about both sides of the fence here just as many “hobbyists” are buying this ridiculous crap as sex workers are.

Pssssst... not real either

We all like a little fantasy and if some wannabe writer wants to write a blog pretending to be a hooker, ex hooker, madame, stripper or whore fucker then great, knock yourself out and tell your personal story…. but do not hand out advice on serious subjects! Fakes  holding themselves out as  experts and co-opting the real experiences of long time workers and long time users of sexual services  by dolling out advice,  is sure to get someone arrested, hurt or worse. Do NOT tell people how to pick the right escort, as if you KNOW when you don’t. Do NOT tell some girl how to avoid a bad client or the cops when your just making shit up. It’s so beyond irresponsible, it makes me see red. I wish i could do more then just call them out and hope that others with knowledge do the same thing. But that’s really all i can do.

It’s been almost year since the very scandalous fauxho controversy made its way though the escort community and shes still out there spewing her bullshit, to anyone who will listen. Still stealing content and using the photos if a very well known cam girl as her own, with not even enough shame to change her name. Yes I’m using the term “she” loosely because as we all know were not even sure if it’s a female, many think its a decidedly male voice that narrative speaks with.

friends don't let friends RT fakes

I see her re-tweeted in my twitter steam weekly… by sex workers that should know better. I do my part to give them the info to make an informed decision on wither they wish to lend their credibility to someone who is the worst kind of fraud perpetrated on a community but still i see her name come up. She’s not the only one, just the most prolific, the one that spends all her time on her fake persona. Likely sitting alone in the dark pounding away at the keyboard getting some kind of twisted satisfaction at all the trust it is betraying and being smugly satisfied with itself that its able to even after being confronted by the most respected of sex workers activists and writers and members if the community, across all facets of sex work, it keeps up the fraud. Even though if  you Google it’s name with the word “fake” you get academics detailing her plagiarism, sex workers  denouncing its authenticity,  its still out there pretending to be real, handing out bad advice and collecting detailed information on “potential clients” but yet … smart people who do have the Google just feed into it.

The Great Pretender

I don’t get it… is it lazy? lack of critical thinking skills? or is real sex worker voices just not salacious enough and people need a fake “cum dumpster”, “gang bang” advocate hooker/stripper out there to validate their Lifetime TV movie view of sex work? From the general population i might understand this but from sex workers themselves?

I am at a loss… and i am exhausted.