Adult content?

So Youtube in all their wisdom has spent some time removing my video clips from their site because they are now considered after 100K views to be”adult content” and or my “INTENTION” and sole purpose was convey sexual gratification. Of course that’s all bullocks. Its not “adult content” its my mouth with some spit. My intention was to drive traffic and well if you got a hard-on and it made you uncomfortable because you saw me spitting and drooling then that’s on you… uptight prude. This clip was also removed from the fetish site Wewhipass  for being “nasty” (yes the same site i watched a clip of a guy being lashed in public and another getting fucked in the ass with a strap on) and then later i was told that it wasn’t a fetish and that’s why it was removed and still later i was told they remove it just cuz they could as is the right they reserve but strangly isn’t written down for other members to see.

So with out further adieu… my tongue, which is so filthy, nasty and sexy that both vanilla websites and fetish websites a like both agree.. its way to hot for them to handle. You be the judge.

http://vimeo.com/20189253

Reaching Out – Eros Guide Update

Shoot that poison arrow...
I have written critically in the past about escort support services, Yanno those pesky mall advertising sites, photographers, designers etc., we all need to help our business grow and flourish. One site  i was concerned about and wrote freely about was The Eros Guide. Now i like the Eros guide i always have,  in the past when Eros was flourishing, i was as well. With the downturn in the economy (yes, escorts are not recession proof) it made us (me) as escorts find ways to work smarter not harder so everything had a turn under the harsh light of cost benefit analysis and the Eros Guide even though liked them personally got their turn. Lets face it they are expensive and when moneys tight you have to examine whats working and whats not and how much your paying for it. It wasn’t exactly glowing what i wrote and i was concerned that the cost of Eros was not paying off  and they had some business changes that i was unsure was the right direction to go, from a customer standpoint. My assessment, I’m sure wasn’t a surprise (many ladies had voice similar concerns)  What happened because of what i wrote…. now that what was a surprise.

Supplies!
The Eros Guide reached out to me and not in a small way. They were sincerely concerned with my issues (apparently they read my blog too!) and and even though i was pretty critical they didn’t take a “oh well fuck her, shes just one advertiser” attitude. They reached deep and though I’m sure (OK i KNOW) some at the company thought it would be futile to reach out to me. I believe what i heard was said when the suggestion to contact me was made was “her? She hates us!”  But they did it anyways. They listened to my concerns, they shared information with me on things they they had in the hopper that would they thought would help understand their position and things they were doing to make what they hoped would be improvements in both customer service and business in general. They made it very clear that cared about my business and took steps to secure i would continue to be an advertiser. It was pretty much the smartest customer service move I’ve seen a company employ in a long time. And that’s saying a lot, since out in the real world some of my job responsibilities often include reputation management. I recognize it when it’s done right and can appreciate it on more then just an “its all about me” level.

Typical business meeting
When the Eros guide folks came to town on other business i had the opportunity to have a sit down with them and explain some ins and outs of the business side of escorting from my perspective. They were eager to hear, my thoughts what worked for me, what didn’t work for me, how i thought things could be better for me as a customer.  They asked smart questions, were really nice and i liked them a lot. They weren’t just blowing smoke up an angry writers ass. They seemed to really care not just about how they were perceived in the industry ( though they do care)  but how they could best serve their advertisers. They understood the “i succeed, they succeed” business model. Now i still don’t always agree with how they do everything over there (It still really bothers me that they give away so many eyeballs with traffic exchange and the pop unders ugh!) However they gave me an opportunity to tell them that… to their faces.

Show it!
And there’s nothing that makes me happier then when I’m doing business with someone and they don’t treat me like a dumb whore but as a valuable resource who knows what I’m doing when it comes to running my business. The Eros guide did just that and not only addressed my concerns but they did it in a friendly professional, up front, no bullshit manner and i have to give credit where credit is due.

Now if only those jackasses at Time Warner and AT&T would pay attention..

Escort mode

The elephant in the room is im a hooker
I’ve been escorting for years and been involved in the sex business in one for or another for even longer. It will effect how you see the world and how you do things. Some positive, some negative. The sum of my experiences makes me who i am, motives me and shapes my world view. Being an escort isn’t about your needs, your sexuality or you anything. Its a service industry job. you are there to serve another’s needs. I get approached all the time by young hopefuls as i like to call the. Many right after some big glossy pretty exciting hooker story breaks in the news. They want to be escorts because they think its glamorous, they want to control men with their sexual prowess, they want to explore their new found sexuality and get paid for fucking hot sexy men who they’d  fuck anyways for free. Yeah,  its not like that.  Escorting isn’t about your needs, its about your clients needs. I try to tell those young hopefuls as much and often refuse to help guide them and  mentor them. Instead preferring to direct them to their local hook up website where they can explore their sexuality and learn to exercise their new found pussy power. Preferring to do what i can to keep those that don’t get what escorting really is out of my backyard.

My life and experience as an escort also seems to find its way into my real life day to day world. For example yesterday. I had a meeting with a potential client about a freelance job. I had already spoken at length with this guy about his project  and this was a simple chemistry check and i had to sign the non disclosure. He’s putting a team together and looking for the right mix. It was right up my alley, i was not just qualified but even over qualified though this project has potential to really skyrocket. I met with him over coffee to talk about what he was doing moving forward and how best what i do and how my skill set could fit in. Well that was the idea anyways.

Unpaid work

What this meeting turned into was some entitled, self important, blow-hard talking about himself, repeating himself, not making clear points. This wasn’t a conversation, this guy wasn’t there to engage me and see if i was the right candidate to move his project forward and it reminded me of my escort life. This guy if he wasn’t a hobbyist sure was acting like one.  In the beginning of the conversation i tried to interject with my skills bringing up previous projects i had worked on that would fit with his model.  To no avail he was too busy name dropping and repeating himself to notice my presence.  About 25 minutes in i gave up and went into escort mode, smiling, nodding, leaning in when he was speaking, acting interested and making him feel like he really had something special in this project. I as a prop there to service his needs.  All this encounter needed was my tits on the table and an envelope stuffed with cash in my purse.

In retrospect i should have gotten up, thanked him for his time and been on my way  about 15 minutes in when realized what was going on. But i didn’t. I don’t know why, maybe because my experience as an escort got in the way and i went into survival mode. Subconsciously maybe i didn’t think i had the right to walk away i was there so i had to see it though to the bitter end just like when youre in a none to stealler escort situation. compartmentalize, get though it, get out. The situation seemed all to familiar, only i wasn’t there to service him it was a business meeting  and he wasn’t paying me for my time. I had every right to walk away and not feel guilty or bad about it or that he would trash me on a message board for my “unprofessional” behavior. But that didnt happen. I stayed, I saw it though until he dismissed me and declared the meeting over.

As i was driving home i thought about what had happened, how i so easily slipped into escort mode and didn’t assert myself, my skills, my abilities how i gave up in this meeting.  I did myself a disservice yesterday i wont let that happen again.

Pas jolie, du tout

Jump on everyones doing it

It happens from time to time. Another escort jumps on your band wagon. It happens to me more then just time to time but it happens to most girls who put a lot of effort into their branding and marketing. Some lazy bitch tries to steal your Mojo. It can be as blatant as coping and pasting your ad copy or website copy and using at their own, to as insidious as following you around on tour, to as annoying as taking your signature branding and trying to co-opt it.

It happened to me again, well twice this week really. A girl has decided to plant her ass everywhere I’m touring. A girl who i generally don’t get along with who i was once close with and takes every opportunity to say something nasty about me or spill my personal business in public when she can. Yep, shes going everywhere i have an placed. So i guess even though she thinks I’m some giant bitch, I’m a bitch who knows where all the good touring spots are and should be followed around.

I was also alerted this week to the fact that a girl i know, a fairly well known touring escort has a new set of photos up on her site…. posing with apples.

"Take a bite of my juicy red apple"

I’ve long cultivated the whole temptation/apple branding in the escort world. It goes back to my first pro escort photos, apples, apples everywhere and while i don’t own the “apple concept” (see the recent Cindy Crawford lingerie shoot) in the escort world that’s a branding I’m known for. If they dont know my name, they know me as the apple girl.  In this case injury was added to insult because this is an escort i once helped when a website had stolen her photos. She was pretty upset some Domme was using her pictures as her own and I made a phone call to the website owner and was able to calmly explain the situation and get them to remove the photos. I was happy to help because i was in position to do so and we all hate it when our photos are stolen. This girl and i are acquainted, so there’s no way she could not know what she was doing, this was calculated and frankly i think showed her for what she seems to be…. Pretty but lazy and unoriginal.

I work hard at building my brand and my persona. I try to be original and to be forward thinking. I also try to help out other working girls when I’m in a position to do so i feel we all should give back a little bit but this kinda thing makes me not want to help anyone anymore.  When i see them upset and at a loss over stolen photos, and what to do about it  even though i know i can help, it makes me want to just say “oh well, hope you work that out” even though i know i can help cuz why bother if those very same people are going to turnaround when they get the chance and try to fuck you, because they are lazy. Yes, I think it mostly comes down to lazy.

Sloth is a deadly sin, yanno

And if youre too lazy to come up with your own ideas in marketing yourself as an escort, or write your own website copy,  or ad copy then I can only assume and I’m sure others will to as to what a lazy fuck you are in the sack.  Pretty only takes you so far in this world, at some point you are going to have to back that pretty face up with something a little more substantial.

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