You’d think it would be easier

I’ve given up trying to deal with third parties when it comes to hosting my video promo clips. YouTube thinks my tongue is “adult” and actively goes after any of the fetish girls posting non adult material which is compliant with their TOS.  I’ve been deleted off that site so many times I cant keep count. Vimeo and I got into it last year when they decided i couldn’t link to any of my websites (including this blog even though other users link to their self promotion blogs) and told me i couldn’t watermark my videos with anything that would direct any Vimeo viewer  to any of my sites where i then in turned linked to a clip site. Yes, Vimeo is trying to police several links out and also actively goes after any fetish people to try to harass them into not using their site buy giving them special rules that dont apply to other users of Vimeo. WTF! (I now watermark with my Twitter fr them, cuz they suck ass)

Fetish people are often targeted even though so much of our content is R-rated at best. My theory is because we confuse and upset people. Yes, me talking about my shoes isn’t adult content and there are video after video on these sites with women talking about shoes showing off shoes and the like but if I’m aware and make it known that i’m aware that my viewer gets a rock hard cock at me talking about my shoes then well…. DELETE HER! Even though my videos comply with their terms of service. It happens to us all and I’ve given up trying to use those sites for any kind of traffic generating device, they just delete me or make me spend hours justifying my content and fighting with them.

I’ve been trying to figure out how to host my own content on my own sites where I can embed a payer into the actual post. Its harder then you think. You can upload but embedding though a player well that’s hard. Right now i’m using a plug in just discovered but I had to convert my content to a .flv file and i’m pretty sure that means flash which means you iphone/ipad users cant see squat (sorry guys). So Its not a perfect solution but i’m not done trying to find a better one.

Until then… enjoy my Fluevogs…

 

The Master’s Thesis

Listen to the rodent
I was contacted by a masters student at a very prominent British university. She let me know that she was writing her masters thesis on blogging and identities in sex work and asked if she could interview me. In the same letter she let me know she was using my blog (yes, this blog) in her research. I was intrigued. After looking her up to make sure she was legit I agreed to be interviewed. The interview was fun, I liked her right away. It was clear she had put some thought into her questions and research. She asked smart questions and made some rather interesting observations about me and my blogging and really whats more fun then talking  for an hour with a smart person about what I love… Writing.

Yes, I write in real life. Yes, my work is published, no I wont tell you how to find it. It got me to thinking about why I continue to blog. I started blogging because I had something to say. Working in the sex business, the community forums were (and still are) full of he man women haters and I got tired of being bullied by keyboard warriors online because I had an opinion. I continued to blog because I got great feedback from other women in the business who said  they were supportive of me because I often said what they wanted to say but were afraid to. I felt for those women I needed to keep up the good fight and I continued.

Yes, this is how i type too
But why do I continue to write in this blog? I dunno. I find I do it less and less. I dont wanna say the same things over an over. I guess I had hoped after a while that this blog would help me write about this business, my business in other ways, on other platforms and in a very small way i guess  it did. I was interviewed by legitimate papers, I was quoted in national magazines. I was also poo poo’ed by the very same peers who encouraged me to fight the good fight, for being too controversial. When a group of them started a collective blog about sex work it was suggested by one of the members that I be invited in, the others dismissed me out of hand because I was too divisive. Even though I have more professional writing experience then many of them, even though I was often praised for speaking out about sex work when others were  afraid to.  I was too controversial, too outspoken, too divisive in their eyes. Not because they thought I was a bad writer, or because I always forget to capitalize my lower case i. It felt personal and it didn’t feel very good at all.  It hurt my feelings and still leaves a bitter taste in my mouth when I see their url pop up unsolicited in my daily Internet browsing. I’ve tried to be supportive,  I’ve tried to be happy for their success. But really I’m just not,  I’m not happy for their success, I wanna be but I’m just not.

I’m not even sure why I’m writing this entry now. Sour grapes? Maybe. Having been an early outspoken sex worker blogger I took a lot of lumps for pulling the curtain back. I was stalked, harassed, hunted and bullied but I kept on fighting the good fight and speaking the truth as I saw it, My truth.  I blazed a bit of a trail and I’m pretty sure i will never be recognised for that, for my small part in the grand scheme how ultra cool it is now to be a sex work blogger.

 

Goat Fucking Thieves

Stealing isnt nice
When people steal my content it hurts me. It hurts my bottom line and it hurts my creativity. It makes me want to raise my prices, to counter balance the money I lose on content thievery and it makes me want to stop producing content in certain niches where self proclaimed subs and slaves steal my content and swap it around like spit at a spin the bottle game. Telling me all the while how much they wanna you serve me and then steal from me at every opportunity. That makes you a goat fucking thief not a sub or a slave, or even a nice little perv who’s just looking to get his rocks off it makes you a thief and  you sure as fuck are not “serving” me when you steal my hard work. I don’t owe you jerk of material, in fact i dont owe you anything. I make a product, if your interested in it, buy it. Its quality stuff, I care, i put in the effort when i make it.

When you file share my work, I do find out about it, In a lot of cases I can trace back the specific file and I know which site it was bought from and get this my little goat fucking thieves most of the time, I can obtain your legal name. I have been known to send off a cease and desist letter to a goat fucking thief to their legal address and legal name, well… really to Mr and Mrs goat fucking thief. Maybe you don’t want your wife to know you love to suck cock,  how much you want to be pimped out like a whore or that you secretly shove giant dildo’s up your ass dressed up in frilly baby clothes. If you steal from me,if you take food off MY table, that might not be a secret I feel obligated to keep.

Admit it, youre a goat fucker
Keep that in mind next time you think hey no big deal if i give away to 400 people a 20.00 Mistress DeMilo  file. freeloading wanna be subs. Seriously how about I come to your place of business and take money out of your McDonald’s paycheck.

Oh and to my lovely wonderful considerate and helpful perverts who keep me in the loop on stolen files, you are my favorite little pets and i will continue to show you the attention and the occasional favor  you so rightly deserve for keeping me in the loop. You truly warm my cold black bitter heart.

The tortoise not the hare

I’m slowly but steadily (yanno like the tortoise) adding all my clips to my fetish clips own site. Every day a few more are being added, little by little. In addition of course to my femdom erotic hypnosis Mp3’s (hot sellers they are) So make sure to check out my very on fetish clip site where you can purchase gems like “jerk off to my tits” oh what a masterpiece!

You know you wanna….

Butterscotch ripple

nothing says lovin like…
Finding the balance between housewife, hypno-domme and whore has not been easy. I’ve been living in DC for about a month now, okay exactly a month and I’m a pretty happy girl and therefore I want to spend all my time dong fun happy things and not working. However that’s unrealistic and I need to find the balance. It’s not coming easy, I’m working for that balance and working hard. I was raised a Buddhist and i always try to be the ball or the donut hole or whatever you wanna call it so balance in life has always been important to me. if not always attainable. It is a worthy endeavor. So i continue to try. I try to maintain a work schedule and a home life. To not only work when i’m inspired to work but to work when time dictates which has never been my strong suit. I like to be inspired. Inspired to write, inspired to shoot, inspired to dress up in a tight corset and beat your ass until you cry like a bitch.

Since I’ve come to this realization i now know I have to invent new ways to work within a happy household, within a happy mind and body and its not easy for me. But like everything i will tackle it with all my might until i conquer this new way of working.. After all invention they say my dear friends, is 93% perspiration, 6% electricity, 4% evaporation, and 2% butterscotch ripple.