The disappearing girl trick

The disappearing girl

It happens, someone disappears from the radar. A girl you email with, talk to online, tweet at. Poof, disappears. Her site is down, her phone disconnected, her twitter deleted. It always freaks me out. Usually its just someone taking a break or leaving the game with no fanfare. Sometimes its because someones been outed and they need all their info down NOW.  I once got a crying phone call at 7am from a escort i knew who’s grown daughter had been forwarded all her reviews and websites. She was at her straight job and was begging me in tears to get into her website back end and take down all her sites… i did what i could.

Girls have disappeared because they were arrested. Usually while on tour. They are expected to be somewhere and never make it. The panic that ensues can be very overwhelming. You dont know why she’s missing, just that she is. No one knows her real name to check for arrest records, you think the worst until you can figure out shes locked up and not dead in a ditch. Recently a girl disappeared because she was kidnapped by a pimp. It happens more often then people think. Some naive girl with dollar signs in her eyes gets taken in by an “escort agency” that’s really a pimp and his bottom bitch ropeing in young impression-ables.

Other girls go missing because they are dead, killed by clients, tricks, hobbyists. Bad decisions and bad luck have lead them to the appointment of no return.They get found in hotel rooms off the track beaten to death.

It always freaks me out when someone disappears. Though 9 times out of 10 the girl is okay  and just laying low for her own personal reasons. It’s the one out of 10 i worry about. Is the thing we all fear. That next it will be us that disappears. That the magician will wave his magic wand and say abracadabra and we will be the next one into the mist.

Another girl i know and like is missing. Her sites are paused, her phone disconnected. I hate this. I hate this a lot. I hope shes okay, i wont be okay until i know shes okay. Every time this happens it chips away at me a little more. it happens more then it should.

ET phone home, let us know you’re ok.

Boredom breeds video making…

Wild Thing

It’s true you know… sitting around playing with my new webcam, i decided to make a clip. Mostly to promote my new venture on the NiteFlirt and to just see what i could come up with. I shouldn’t be left with too much time on on my hands…

This is the result: couldn’t figure out how to embed the video so youz have to clickity the linkity.

Hearding cats and other pastimes

Know, it learn, it live it...

Verifying references is essential. I’m a reference friendly escort. That basically means i will vouch for a guy I’ve seen when he wants to see another escort. He gives her my info then she contacts me and i let her know that I’ve seen him. Its one of the way ladies stay safe.

I have a very specific way i do things, i expect the escort to give me enough information on the potential client so that i can easily figure out who shes talking about. His name, email, board handles, cell number and maybe something to jog my memory about him but usually just the specifics he would have used to book with me are needed. I dont see people with out verifying them, so if i don’t have their cell, name, email, etc… i didn’t see them.

"Who...are....you?"

The other information i need is on the escort asking me for the reference. If i dont already know her personally or have had some kinda online interaction then i need her to let me know who SHE is to make sure SHE is legit. I’m not going to haphazardly give out a reference if I’m not 100% sure it’s a real escort asking for the info and not an angry wife, nosey reporter or even a man in a uniform. So i expect an escort to write me from her main email, to give me a link to her reviews, website, verification service profile or combination there of.

Seems simple enough right? Well its not. I never used to have reference issues but it seems every third one that comes in these days there’s an issue. From not enough client info, to who the fuck are you asking, to oh my god how about you put on your “I have manners and i know how to use them” hat and not demand that i do you this favor because you’re an entitled bitch that the world owes a favor to.

I got a reference request from a girl i never heard of. She didn’t do any of the things i need to turn her around a reference. Only partial client info, no info on herself (not even an web address in her email signature) and she was a rude entitled twat. One line “I need a reference for INSERT FIRST NAME HERE. His email address is INSERT EMAIL ADDRESS HERE” and…. that’s all she wrote. Now off the top of my head i know who the client is, he uses me as a referece often, he’s a regular and a really good client. So i write this chick back telling her i need her to give me HER Info in order to be able to help her out that i need to verify HER and id be happy to give her a reference if she could do that. I was much nicer than i wanted to be. Mainly because hes a good client. I never heard back from her.

Days later my client drops me a note asking if i got a reference check, that he was dealing with a difficult provider. I forwarded him the exchange between this dumb bitch and myself and told him she never got back to me. He then forwarded to me his exchange with her. This idiot told MY client that his reference didn’t check out and she declined to see him. Now she can see whoever she wants but WTF cunt! It wasn’t the client that didn’t check out, it this dumb slag. I asked for more info and this fool told a client who used me as a ref “he didn’t check out” un-fucking real. I saw red.

I don't owe *you* anything, i owe my client

Well my client and i compared notes (and emails) and he was grateful that I’m as careful as i am with his personal information. Clients put their trust in us when they give his screening information and its up to us to safeguard that info and to do our due diligence when doing a reference check. He said he was done dealing with her. Obviously she’s retarded. She lost out on a really good client and her name is mud with me for attempting to try to ruin my good relationship with a client by lying to him, in reference to me.

From now on I’m CCing all client reference check response to the client as well. I dont know if it’s that the economy is down and girls who would never be escorts start working and sully it with their terrible business practices and stupid dumb attitudes or if its the rise in hooker-dom on the TV and movie machines or maybe it’s just I’ve been lucky in the past with this issue. But seriously its not rocket science it shouldn’t be like herding cats but these days it sure seems like it is and really I’m not a cat herder nor do i want to be one.

Eros feedback phone call

Don't hold back tell me what you reall think

So I’m minding my own business and the Eros guide gives me a ring. Odd because i don’t have an any current ads up with them and i haven’t for a while. I answer, the purpose it seems of their call is to find out why i haven’t advertised with them in a while. They are looking for feedback. So i give it to them.

I tell them that Eros in my home market is a waste of money for me. I tell them that I’m not thrilled with the new “self service” model if their site. I tell them I’m not happy with the rate increases, especially in light of the new model where they require their advertisers to build their own ads. I tell them that the new model makes their site look less consistent and in some cases makes it look well, “junky” and do i really wanna be advertising along side ladies who now can make their name anything including “Fat Ass-ed Ho” naw not really. I explain to them that as the economy decreased, they increased not only their rates but the time and effort it takes to advertise with them. That the ROI and cost benefit analysis makes Eros not a good choice for me at this time. Maybe they were surprised to hear an escort use the phrase “cost benefit analysis” cuz there was an a moment of silence.  I told them that advertisers like City Vibe often offered special package rates and that in contrast when Eros offered any kind of discount or special offer it was always on an add on which inmost cases no one wanted or needed.  I did tell them that i tend to you put up a touring ad when i was touring a market where Eros was prominent. Which i believe is dwindling.

Words to live by

They were interested in the feedback and were super polite. They  did get a little defensive not much but a little and tried to stroll down the “we bring you better quality of clients path” which of course is bullshit. That’s an advertising/marketing line not a reality. Eros clients aren’t any more “quality” then City Vibe or any of the review sites. You cant judge the quality of a client because of the hooker ad he surfs. They might deliver web hits because they get a lot of traffic but even their traffic is way down.  The conversions from web hit to client is so far in the red  and the cost of an Eros ad is so high that it makes Eros a risky advertising choice. Plus that’s a lot of scratch to come up with on the front end. Some girls who get a VIP ad can pay as much as months rent for one ad. Who’s got an extra months  rent laying around these days (no matter what business you’re in) to just throw away on a test ad that has a high risk of not paying off.

I explained all this to Eros when they asked for my feedback. I hope they listen. I hope they don’t brush me off. I really hope they make some adjustments so that long time advertisers like me will see the benefit of coming back into the Eros fold.. As I’ve written before they are a huge cash cow. They make millions off the backs of escorts and give little in return and in my opinion are no longer the gold standard of advertising they once were.

That’s the bottom line and that’s what i told them.