Websters defines Demagoguery like this:
The feel they have power and I suppose in their small pond they might be considered a big fish by some smaller minnows. Then you can always watch it take a turn for the crazy into Demagogue land. They are looked up to by their minnows in the pond and they start to use that admiration to further grab power in any way they can. Usually these are they types that feel powerless in the real live world, who make the mad dash for power on a message board. The types that are not looked up to out side of the online world. But online…. they think they are someone special. How many times has an escort heard “i can make and break your career” by some dude? Lots. How many times has an escort been threatened with a bad review? Lots. Hell even I was just recently threatened by some freak on a message board that he was going to give me a “spike” in blog hits because he didn’t like something in said in a private conversation. (BTW I’m still waiting for that spike you said you were able to deliver, when is it going to get here? I don’t got all day)
If they feel it will up their cache, they will have no issue with an attempt to ruin a providers reputation, especially some uppity whore with a big mouth, or some uppity whore out of their price range, or some uppity whore that doesn’t have their preferred body style. They can always find some uppity whore to try to tear down as they try to build themselves up. I mean whores are to service them, to be how THEY want them to be, they aren’t not real people. It’s easy to sway a bunch of dudes who have issues with women, that women are bad. If they are predisposed to the idea, then a few well planted words on a “men’s only” website or a few back channel whispers, they feel will do the trick. They not only get to denigrate who ever is the uppity whore of the moment but they get to be raised in the esteem of the minnows which in turns gives them more cache and what they think is power plus, they get granted the moniker of super hobbyist!
However, that’s not power. The dirty little secret is that the hookers really have the power because they have the pussy. Power of the pussy will always trump some socially retarded, unaccomplished, egomaniacal, loser who spends too much time thinking about, posting about, talking about and trying to control a bunch of hookers on a message board.
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Another kick ass post Jenny!
When I got into this hobby, me just being me, I often thought of all of us as an odd collection of freaks, a kind of big disfunctional family. It’s been a bit of a bummer when I realized that I was probably in a minority in feeling that way, at least amongst many of the gents in this hobby.
But you’re right. The ladies are the ones who really do have the power. Even Iggy Pop knows that. 🙂
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7kxTPbB4S4
Yup. If you look closely you’ll see that same desperate power grab everywhere… check out the next guy who gets REALLY pissed off at Starbucks because there’s a little too much foam in his coffee.
Hi Jenny,
I really love your blog. What keeps me coming back is how real, honest, and straight-forward you are. I also love the images you use; they are so appropriate and marvelous. Keep up the great writing.
Des
It isn’t always the men who are like this! There are ex whores, bored whores, whores with a grudge,has been whores, or just complete failures as whores, who also inhabit the message board, and have ‘that chair’. They fall out with the hobbyist guy who thinks he has a right to be there simply because he has been on there a long time, but they generally fall in with him if he falls out with someone – especially another working girl they don’t particularly like ( perhaps she is pretty)
I think also that a lot of these people who are generally knowledgeable about Every Damned Subject raised… are not punters at all!
LOL
WW: Iggy Pop knows best 😉
Ethan: True its not singular to hobbyist boards and can be seen across the online world. But there’s something dastardly about it when its a group of men trying to control a women’s freedom of snatch
Des: Thanks for your comment! I hope you keep coming back!
Sarah: I dont really see a lot of women in positions of authority on message boards here in the states. Unless its ladies only forums/sites. Maybe its different across the pond. I would tend to agree though the know-it-alls seem to me to spend their time on the boards and not “on the whores” 🙂
I was a board regular back in the day, yanno when I was a young pup and the internet was still shiny! I still check out reviews, but mostly the bullshit from the demagogues has turned me into an occasional lurker rather than a regular participant. Some of these guys make MY skin crawl, and I’m not expected to fuck them!