Many aspiring escorts make rookie mistakes. many long time vets in the biz make them too. There’s no book you can read to tell you how to be a good escort and being a good escort is so much more then just knowing out to knock a clients socks off in bed or to be great client focused company. It’s running a small business and business practices do come into play, as well as using your common sense. Ive put together some common and typical mistakes escort make and some easy solutions.
1. Putting your menu on your website
DON’T do it! it can be used as evidence against you in a court of law. It really can. if you say “yeah i will have sex with you for XX dollars” they you are setting yourself up to get busted and to spend some time in the clink. You have just made yourself the easy target. Using code words like BBBJ, Greek, etc is the same thing. Just say you provide time and companionship. If someone needs specifics they can read the “fantasy” reviews other clients have written about you or some ladies without reviews provide references that potential clients can contact. Dont forget that exchanging sex for money is illgal and having a prostitution bust on your record will follow you around forever. they best thing is to do whatever you can to minimize that risk.
2. Using unprofessional and unflattering photographs
If you post nasty spread beaver shots then try to charge a hefty fee you wont get anywhere. You will get a nasty client. If every picture of you is a photo you took of yourself with your camera phone in a hotel bathroom mirror, you are putting yourself in the “cam phone” ho market. If you want to charge a pretty penny for your time, then you need to appeal to the clients with the pretty penny. That means investing in your photos. Men are visual creatures and you should present yourself in your most flattering light and that includes professionally shot, artfully staged photos. You cant be a thousand dollar escort with 100 dollar photos.
3. Undervaluing your worth
Don’t be desperate, look at your market, look at your competition. It’s not easy to jump markets and often where you position yourself is where you will stay. Geography does play a major role in how structure your rates so take that into consideration and then don’t undervalue yourself. What is you being an escort worth to you? 200, 500, 1500? setting your rate at 200 when your city average is 400 and your competition is in the 350 range and you may get a short term gain but there are clients who wont see a 200 girl if they are a 500 dollar guy and as i already said where you start is often where you stay.
4. Running your mouth too much
And by this i mean in your appointments. Don’t talk about your competition, don’t gossip with clients. They are some of the biggest clucking hens out there. They love to gossip. I’m talking about “hobbyist” who are involved in the community mostly. They love to pit girls against each other and cause lots of trouble. They also love to talk, talk, talk to other hobbyists. It makes them feel important like they know secret info. The best thing to do is a lot of smiling and nodding. Let them talk, you just smile. They bring up another escort you either say ” oh i dot know her but i hear shes nice” or “yes i know XX, shes been very kind to me” even if you hate the bitch. Don’t get suckered into gossip.
5. Using a canned website
Just as with professional photos you need a professional website and though canned template sites are great when you’re just starting out to get your feet wet. When you’re ready to step up your game and be a real professional invest in a domain name that YOU control and a professional website designer who can create you a site you can maintain and update yourself with a user friendly CMS (content management system) don’t be another cheap ass ho in line. Be an individual, show your personality and style. It will pay off.
Those are just a few of the common pitfalls i see girls making over and over again and they are easy to avoid if you put in a little bit of effort. Its well worth it and your bottom line will thank you.
Excellent work, Jenny. I agree with all of them, *especially* the one on the photos. A good set of photos will go a long way toward attracting what I like to refer to as "serious" clients.
As for the point about talking, the only thing I'd qualify that with is that you need to tailor how much you talk to your client. Just smiling and nodding for some guys will be a turn off because they think you're disinterested and don't want to engage in conversation (which actually is something many clients want in addition to anything else). I definitely agree with the point you made about discussing other providers, though.
Great tips! I learned a thing or two, mainly with #1. Definitely want to stay safe, so hard to communicate what you're all about!
This part made me laugh: If every picture of you is a photo you took of yourself with your camera phone in a hotel bathroom mirror, you are putting yourself in the "cam phone" ho market.
thank you for those wonferful tips! I followed all those rules when I started and I must say that by having excellent pictures, great website that represents my personnality, I was able to attract a very nice clientele. It is truly the key to succeed in this very competitive business.