Let me define “hobbyist”, I’m talking about message board hobbyists. Men who don’t just review escorts but are active message board participants. So really what I’m saying is message board hobbyists are not hobbying. They are not paying for the intimate time of an escort. Sure the bad economy is a factor but i noticed the decline of message board participants actually hiring escorts before the economy was an issue. They post on escort oriented message boards, they flirt with escorts online, they spend countless hours in chat rooms with like minded men and escorts who are desperately vying for their attention, they send saucy PM’s and emails, they attend meet and greets and play grab ass in public, they inquire as to availability of escorts as if they are interested in booking, they make sure to ask for a special or a discount because of their message board reputation, they create online relationships, but I’ve been noticing a giant trend toward message board hobbyists not actually making appointments getting in their cars, laying their cold hard cash down on the table and seeing the escorts they are engaging with online. So i started to think as to why.
Why does someone see an escort? Mainly its because something is missing in their life. They could be in a marriage where the sex is greatly decreased, or they have an need for sexual variety that being in a marriage prohibits, they are single and between committed relationships (though in general there are less of the single guys than the marrieds) they are missing excitement, the thrill of flirtation, the feeling of being desired, wanted and sexually sought after.
So if they can get all that buy joining a message board and never leaving the comfort of their computer why wouldn’t they? Basically they are having affairs with women they find sexually desirable, who openly flirt, engage, send them naked, salacious pictures to entice them to visit, tell them how much they are desired, wanted and needed and they never have to open their wallets, never have to leave the chair in front of the computer, except to go to a meet and greet, social or lunch and pretend that all the chicks there WANT them and play a little grab ass.
There are many mini dramas on message boards and often its a couple of escorts who are fighting over a client. The truth of the matter is its a money thing with the girls but they would never come out and say that. It’s unspoken so that the man can have his fantasy. Its not a transaction, the girls are after but HIM. We get too business like and we get branded “all business” and that’s not good for “business” the big lie is that were in it for the sex and not the money.
Ive noticed with my business, personally its taken an interesting turn. Most of my new clients and many of my existing clients are not message board hobbyist or “hobbyists” at all. They are often men new to the idea of hiring an escort, they have found me though an ad on a mall site or more often though this blog. Or maybe they write the occasional review but usually only at the request of the escort. They don’t spend countless hours yanking chains and low balling ladies on message boards or pitting them against each other so that they can feel like a hot commodity. They simply want some intimate time with a willing partner they find attractive. This is a sentiment I’ve heard echoed by ladies across the nation self identified hobbyists are not hobbying .
Its an election year and that always is a precursor to a shift in the sex for money biz. Couple that with the failing economy and you have a lot of ladies in the biz suffering… BUT add in this message board phenomenon and and shine a light on it and you will see a whole new ball game emerge. The solution is of course to develop a client base not centered around message boards which i personally have been doing for some time. Is it more difficult…yes. Is it harder to screen your clients to make sure they are safe… yes. Is it worth it… oh hell YES.
As with any business you need to keep your fingers on the pulse and not fall into the trap of always doing whats easy and never getting off the path of least resistance. For a while there message boards were a gold mine, it was an easy way to find the like minded folks and to make a pretty penny dong it but they have evolved into something else and are no longer worth the investment of so much time energy and resources. The pay off isn’t there anymore. They shouldn’t be abandoned all together, why throw out the baby with the bath water. Use them as tool they can be just like you’d use any other business tool but they shouldn’t be regarded as the Golden Calf either. That idol was false and fleeting and we all know what happens when you you worship at that alter….. you might just get your temple torn down.