||||Confessions Of A Message Board Hooker

I shot this a few years ago, it was a really fun bubble bath shoot with the spunky Alina.

I wonder what ever happened to her.

So on occasion i do a little financial domination, mostly i keep it to hypnosis Mp3s. I am a money grubbing greedy whore but findom isn’t a speciality I indulge in very often. I was inspired to do a little wallet rape MP3 and actually call it “Serious Wallet Rape” Wallet rape isn’t about rape, its about taking money from someone to dominate them not about sexual assault. However when you’re making fetish content many clip sites are hyper sensitive to certain words… even when they are used in a proper context to convey their alternative meaning.  As we all know words often do have two meanings. So though they MP3 is the same anywhere you get it, the name of the MP3 is different. When you buy direct from me its called “Serious Wallet Rape” when you get it from one of my many clip studios like Clippette  or Clips4sale you will see “rape” was replaced with “assault” Cie la vie .. I love both those clip sites and far be it for me to bring any unwanted heat to them because of one little word…

Its seems as if its always such an uphill battle, you’re always pushing that heavy rock up that very big hill, the war of the words, the fight for the narrative when it comes to sex work and sex workers. It’s frustrating when people who aren’t sex workers “get it wrong”even when they mean well. When you run across someone misusing the correct terminology  and conflating and isolating prostitution with “sex work”  it can be disheartening, frustrating and very annoying because you know when you come across that, that you are losing narrative ground in the battle of the words. I try to be understanding when i come face to face with it but lets face it, I’m outspoken and often a hot head and i have little patience that seem to get thinner and thinner as time goes by.

Sex worker isn’t just another name for prostitute. True, prostitutes are sex workers and i know that can be confusing to those not not involved in the sex worker subculture or those not paying attention but all different kinds of people (both men and women) working in the sex business are sex workers . Strippers, prostitutes, Dommes, phone sex operators, webcam girls, and adult film actors (to name a few) are all sex workers. Granted no one really expects a librarian in Ottawa Canada to know the ins and out of sex work and clearly Elaine Condos ins’t up to date on her terminology, as i noticed when reading a story by sex writer and sex community member for Sexis Magazine Liz Langley about how Ottawa is adding a prostitute to the kinds of people you can check out of the library, (you can already check out a stripper)

“Of course there are some people who have objected to the checking out of the sex worker and the stripper. But, “Books are about information and information comes in many, many formats, and a human book is a unique way of presenting information. … The role of the public library is to provide access to information,” said Elaine Condos, the city’s acting librarian”

…but if you’re reporting on the story you might want to point out the source of the quote you list isn’t getting it right and make the correction to  inform your readers  of who sex workers actually are. Seems simple right?  It’s not. Let me say this real loud and proud and real clear. Strippers aresex workers. Sex worker isnt just a PC way of saying hooker, it’s an umbrella term that covers many kinds of people who do different kinds of sex work.

Sex workers need allies and often that’s sex writers but if sex writers cant get the terminology right then how in the world is the general non ally public supposed to get it. Like i said uphill battle, very very uphill.

 

 

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I recently read a blog by a feisty redheaded colleague of mine about why top tier experienced escorts are leaving the business and her take wasn’t the economy, it was dealing with idiot clients or those that wished to become them. I think shes right, the bullshit has increased. Maybe because escorting is more accessible to the masses so there’s a bigger pool of numb nuts who spend their time sending out inquiries. I don’t know the why of it but i know it happens. A recent inquiry i got seemed to fit right in with this theory. I was contacted via a screening service, the potential client had seen a couple other legit girls (though their rates were a quarter of mine)  and they had vouched for his legitimacy. That’s always a good thing but this is the email he sent… verbatim.

“Just arriving in town and looking for a grerat time before I leave. Looking for a 2-3hr. appt. with trips to the Greek Isles if possible. Outcall if possible… dOUBLES ALSO IF POSSIBLE”

Oh take me away prince charming. I really am worth you at least running a spell check over your inquiry as i don’t generally provide “grerat” times. I’m spelling challenged myself but at least put in the bare minimum of effort, no one wants to deal with a lazy client, and you just showed me you are in fact lazy. Also what’s with the capricious capitalization on the thing about the doubles? Does it being mostly in all caps mean that its really, really important i bring another chick with me? The obvious glaring problem with this email is that this potential client uses stupid code for anal sex thinking that somehow that will circumvent the need for discretion. It doesn’t. You can say it what ever super secret code you like, its still being indiscreet and its really fucking annoying to get that kind of email from a complete stranger whom you have never communicated with before. The second issue is of course there no dates associated. Oh sure stranger who just broke escorting inquiry rule number one I’m free all the time 24/7 at your convenience, I’m really hoping you will pay me money to stick your dick in my pooper and I’ll bring a random friend!

Now i know I’m being nit picky to some degree but if you have done any amount of research on me especially to the point where you are ready to make an inquiry to possibly spend some naked time then you should be well aware that i don’t usually let people nail me in the backdoor … yanno unless i’m married to you. Also that rule number one is discretion and discretion isn’t just I’ll not look like a 3 dollar whore when i show up to your 5 star hotel, its that you don’t ask me to exchange sex for money …. in email, on the phone or in person. I don’t care if you have a million other girls you banged vouch for you you. Screening services have all been infiltrated at one time or another to some degree they are not 100% fool proof.  Don’t do it, don’t ask for sex in an inquiry. We all know why we are here, you pay, i provide. If you need it spelled out for you then you are looking for trouble! If you need to know about anal sex then do some research and find my reviews that are floating on the tubes and viola! You are now informed. If you cant do that i would guess the proliferation of the word GFE in association with myself all over my website with never a mention of PSE might be your first fucking clue.

I did write this potential client back with a link to my screening form, asked for dates/times and emphasized my GFE nature. Of course i heard not a word back. Because this guy was either a cop, a time waster or just your every day dick in your hand dumbass hobbyist, none of which i want to hang out with in any capacity.

I’m slowly but steadily (yanno like the tortoise) adding all my clips to my fetish clips own site. Every day a few more are being added, little by little. In addition of course to my femdom erotic hypnosis Mp3′s (hot sellers they are) So make sure to check out my very on fetish clip site where you can purchase gems like “jerk off to my tits” oh what a masterpiece!

If you’re selling your content be it porn or fetish content and if your selling it though a clip site then you are not making 100% on your work. There is an implied deal with the clip site you are selling your content though. You give of X percentage of your profits in exchange for X services from the clip site. So what are those X’s you are giving up and getting. Let me break it down.

You can give up, up to 40% of your sales, I’ve even heard tell of some sites wanting more then that. In exchange you get a platform to sell your content, all the payment processing by the clips site and they host your content for sale. Okay lets break this down a little further.

A Platform: it’s a great thing. They have customers, you want customers a win/win right? Wrong, not all clip sites have customers. Several (you know who you are Kinkbomb) have a website but they don’t have any traffic to speak of. So though you have a place to sell your content, if the clip studio isn’t bringing traffic to the table then really its like selling your content in a consignment shop in a part of town no one goes to.

Payment Processing: Hooray for someone else doing the payment processing. It’s not easy for adult business to get merchant accounts and i know that sounds strange considering how much business is done in the adult content realm but its true. So a clip site will handle your payment processing, do the accounting and send you a check at the end of the month for your “commission” on your sales. That too is a great thing and it sure sounds like its worth giving up a portion of your profits to have someone else handle that aspect and its is.. it is unless they are inundated with charge backs and fraud reports and then pass those costs on to you or maybe just saying they are getting them so they can skim off your earnings. It happens more then you think.

Hosting content for sale: someones gotta host it because it has to be available for download sale. This is the one thing that almost all of the clip sites get right. Unless they have a server melt down or something and then you have to start from scratch with a site. On the plus side ive only heard of this happening once. (couch, couch, kinkbomb, cough, cough)

Those those are the things you get from any clip site and what you give up is up to and likely 40%  of your sales. Think about it… 40% thats a lot of scratch to give up. You sell a video for 10 bucks you are only getting $6.00 sell 50 of them instead of making 500.00 you make 300.00. So in exchange for that you want to get the best deal you can and make sure the sites you are selling though are holding up their end of the implied and sometimes not so implied bargain. A clip site can give you 70% of your sales but if they have no customers for you to sell to, 70% of nothing is still nothing.

So let me break down sites I’ve had personal experience with:

Clips4Sale: By far the site with the most traffic, a large operation with a solid reputation and an actual team of people. They earn their 40% of sales by bringing customers to the table, they process all payments and you get a check every month like fucking clock work.  Since they are the biggest of the sites they also do a fair amount of promoting and will even send out the occasional email to their studios giving them ideas on how to increase sales.  I have no complaints. If you work hard and use all the site features it pays off plain and simple.

Clippette: In business just about a year Clippette is almost all fetish driven content and its run by fetish people. It’s a smaller site and therefore not a far reaching but their customers are targeted. If you’re a stockings, foot or hypnosis fetish person you’re likely going to be checking out Clippette. Also being a smaller site the customer service with these guys is impeccable. They not only are right on top of any issues from technical to administrative but they do fun promotions and take feedback like a champ. Ive seen them implement several suggestions i personally made which resulted in increased sales. Love that!

Kinkbomb: Yeah, I’ve written about them before and I did remove all my content from them. They have been in business about a year. Its about 4 guys who run it and the president is the boyfriend of a top selling online Domme. It’s rumored that her and her friends get 80-100% on their payouts hence them not having any issues diverting their customers from Clips4sale to Kinkbomb where they make more on each sale. However Kinkbomb has very low traffic and is plagued with “charge backs” be they real (because words gotten out amongst customers that a charge back with Kinkbomb is a given) or made up as to make up for costs from the smaller studios because the cut is so big on the larger selling ones, who knows. My personal experience sucked, maybe you’ll have better luck… ha, as if.

Clipvia: Another side project of a couple of guys who have day jobs. Clipvia will pay out 70% to studios which is great. Sadly though they have very little traffic and 70% of nothing is still nothing.  Since it’s two guys with day jobs the customer service is sucky and they handle issues with a often broken 3rd party application and not by email (Really?)  Though I think this guys intentions are in the right place clearly he doesn’t have the time to dedicate to growing a start up.

Eclips: Also a new site just over a year old. This ones got a strange interface for uploading your content and they have been plagued with merchant account issues. The owner is really very sweet and all my interactions with him have been great, i only wish they had any traffic… at all. No traffic means no sales.

Here’s the bottom line a clip site needs to host the content, process the payment and bring customers to the table. Having a decent interface and good customer service is always a good thing. If your clip site is lacking in any of those areas then maybe its time to reassess them and how much effort you are putting into it. If you are driving all the traffic to your sales then maybe you need to open your own site, which by the way will net you about 90% of your profits. Which I myself have done and i couldn’t be happier about it. I still sell on Clips4sale and Clippette and have my studio loaded with content on Eclips (come on little engine you can do it) but I’ve removed content from Kinkbomb awaiting documentation of mystery charge backs  and Clipvia for having some super sucky customer service. No need in investing time and effort into sites that don’t pay off, or don’t appreciate you as studio partner or who out right steal from you. Find the good ones and work hard to make those pay off.

New years eve photo. However I did put on pants before I left the house. I’m good like that.

I was taking a little stroll down Eden Fantasys Sexis Magazine lane and happened across the interview of the hot and smart girls over at the Tits And Sass blog by the lovely Rachel Rabbit Whitewho is a sex and gender writer. The interview was about music and stripping. What music do you like to strip to, how does music affect your earning potential and the like and it got me thinking about how strippers and escorts use music differently. Strippers use the music in selling their lap dances, they often have to use some other girls music when she’s on stage and they are selling dances and maybe even have dance to some crap they cant stand and make it feel sexy and like they are really into it. You gotta respect anyone who can do that. Music obviously place a big part in the working life of a stripper. They are after all dancers. But how exactly does music play a role in the working life of an escort?

Many escorts do a lot to make their appointments feel intimate and inviting, which can often include answering the door wearing some sexy lingerie, sexy lighting as in candle light this can also include some soft sexy music playing. The reason for the sexy lighting is obvious, every one looks better in candle light, the hooker your about to pay your hard earned cash to and the client doing the paying. Lets face it we have to look at you and sometimes you are not our cup of tea… so every little bit helps. The music though is another story completely. The music is not just a collection of random Barry White and Marvin Gaye songs. Though setting the mood always helps, the music my friends is timed. That’s right the play list you are hearing when you pop on over to see your favorite pay for pay lady is one way we know how time is passing and keeps us on track in our appointments, so that we can get everything that needs to happen in the one hour of GFE loving the client has paid for, done.

For example halfway though my appointments when the Psychedelic Furs “Love My Way” comes on, I know that about 30 minutes has gone by and if I’m not done or close to done with round one there would be no round two. So I have decisions to make, either stretch out the first go around or get it over with so there will be time left for another round of action. I also have a two minute warning song, which is to say when “Baby Elephant Walk” (Yes, I have a sense of humor) comes on I know that there’s about 5 minutes until the full hour is up and that I have just about that much time to get my client in the shower and out the door if he’s lolly gagging. When Nina Simone’s “I Want A Little Sugar In My Bowl” starts to play my client had better be putting on his coat and walking out and If the music goes off all together, my client is over staying his hour and I am losing money. Not something I ever like to do. So even though both strippers and escorts use music to their advantage in the work they do, they use it just a little differently and here you thought your favorite hooker just really had a thing for Starland Vocal Band, nope it meant it was time for you to go.

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If you don’t have one you will after you listen to this. This little diddy started out as a femdom hypnosis custom request (i just love making custom Mp3s, i love it long time) and developed into a hot seller. I guess there really is a market for premature ejaculation and over excitement fetish material. Lucky me and poor sad unlucky little you with your uncontrollable hair trigger cock.

Listen to a sample … At your own risk!

Let the games begin!

 

Finding the balance between housewife, hypno-domme and whore has not been easy. I’ve been living in DC for about a month now, okay exactly a month and I’m a pretty happy girl and therefore I want to spend all my time dong fun happy things and not working. However that’s unrealistic and I need to find the balance. It’s not coming easy, I’m working for that balance and working hard. I was raised a Buddhist and i always try to be the ball or the donut hole or whatever you wanna call it so balance in life has always been important to me. if not always attainable. It is a worthy endeavor. So i continue to try. I try to maintain a work schedule and a home life. To not only work when i’m inspired to work but to work when time dictates which has never been my strong suit. I like to be inspired. Inspired to write, inspired to shoot, inspired to dress up in a tight corset and beat your ass until you cry like a bitch.

Since I’ve come to this realization i now know I have to invent new ways to work within a happy household, within a happy mind and body and its not easy for me. But like everything i will tackle it with all my might until i conquer this new way of working.. After all invention they say my dear friends, is 93% perspiration, 6% electricity, 4% evaporation, and 2% butterscotch ripple.