Risky Behavior

Yes, there will be hookers but will there be ballons?
I’ve written about hooker meet and greets  before, I’m sure this wont be the last time I write about them but let me say this loud and clear… Escort meet and greets are not safe! As further proof how these functions have taken a dive in the safety arena (they took a dive in the class arena long ago)  is the latest from New York Magazine “Johns Night Out” Where a reporter gains access to an “exclusive” meet and greet he heard about on the largest hooker review website out there, you know the one that boasts a bizillion reviews of escorts. A public notice was posted about the upcoming event and it appears the reporter asked for an invite and got one.

If a reporter can gain access then so can law enforcement. Busting meet and greets is happening more often then ever before. Yes, there was a time when meet an greets were safer then they are today. I have been to them, hell I’ve even thrown a couple way back in the day but times have changed and people need to understand that the risk of attending a meet and greet has increased 10 fold. Escorting is a risky business, its not legal and these parties might have had a purpose once upon a time but now reporters are going to them and writing about how that hooker was making out with a client/potential client (gross) and how hookers and johns excused themselves and left to go to locally bought hotel rooms to conduct business. That’s exactly how some people in the Midwest just got arrested after attending a meet and greet sponsored by a local Midwest board.

Is it really worth the risk?
This New York based meet and greet also cost money, according to the reporter 120 bucks a head with a count of about 75 men attending (ladies don’t pay at these events) Lets do the math, that comes to $9,000 but of course the host is only doing this out of some altruistic need to match make escorts and their potential clients not because he’s a hobbyist who’s once again trying very hard to get a piece of the financial action, no its out of the kindness of his heart.  He also seems to have no ability to screen potential guests as evidenced by the big, flashy, splashy article in New York Magazine. As escorts, screening is the very thin line that protects us from harm and arrest. Don’t give that task over to someone you don’t know, someone who doesn’t have the skills to keep you safe, someone who’s got motives other then safety. Don’t hand that very important safety element over to some hobbyist dude who is looking to make a buck off your attendance and likely is trying to up his profile with the other hobbyists in the virtual locker room that is hooker message boards. Meet and greets are not safe places to be. Yeah I know the old line thats thrown about over and over “they will generate more business” Yeah really? Will they generate enough business to overcome the cost of a lawyer if you are arrested? Will they generate enough income to overcome the stigma of having a permanent arrest record for prostitution? Are they worth the family problems you might encounter if your name is all over the Internet as a known prostitute? Will they generate enough income to make up for being splashed across the nations magazines or newspapers? Yes, this reporter only used user-names and did not publish pictures with his article, will the next reporter do the same? Would TMZ be so restrained? Hardly.

As escorts we take great care to minimize our risk in a very risky business. The writing is on the wall for escort meet and greets and its scrawled in thick bold black letters.

 

Grunt, scratch balls and grunt again

Youre about this subtle
I recently read a blog by a feisty redheaded colleague of mine about why top tier experienced escorts are leaving the business and her take wasn’t the economy, it was dealing with idiot clients or those that wished to become them. I think shes right, the bullshit has increased. Maybe because escorting is more accessible to the masses so there’s a bigger pool of numb nuts who spend their time sending out inquiries. I don’t know the why of it but i know it happens. A recent inquiry i got seemed to fit right in with this theory. I was contacted via a screening service, the potential client had seen a couple other legit girls (though their rates were a quarter of mine)  and they had vouched for his legitimacy. That’s always a good thing but this is the email he sent… verbatim.

“Just arriving in town and looking for a grerat time before I leave. Looking for a 2-3hr. appt. with trips to the Greek Isles if possible. Outcall if possible… dOUBLES ALSO IF POSSIBLE”

Oh take me away prince charming. I really am worth you at least running a spell check over your inquiry as i don’t generally provide “grerat” times. I’m spelling challenged myself but at least put in the bare minimum of effort, no one wants to deal with a lazy client, and you just showed me you are in fact lazy. Also what’s with the capricious capitalization on the thing about the doubles? Does it being mostly in all caps mean that its really, really important i bring another chick with me? The obvious glaring problem with this email is that this potential client uses stupid code for anal sex thinking that somehow that will circumvent the need for discretion. It doesn’t. You can say it what ever super secret code you like, its still being indiscreet and its really fucking annoying to get that kind of email from a complete stranger whom you have never communicated with before. The second issue is of course there no dates associated. Oh sure stranger who just broke escorting inquiry rule number one I’m free all the time, 24/7 at your convenience, I’m really hoping you will pay me money to stick your dick in my pooper and I’ll bring a random friend!

Now i know I’m being nit picky to some degree but if you have done any amount of research on me especially to the point where you are ready to make an inquiry to possibly spend some naked time then you should be well aware that i don’t usually let people nail me in the backdoor … yanno unless i’m married to you. Also that rule number one is discretion and discretion isn’t just I’ll not look like a 3 dollar whore when i show up to your 5 star hotel, its that you don’t ask me to exchange sex for money …. in email, on the phone or in person. I don’t care if you have a million other girls you banged vouch for you you. Screening services have all been infiltrated at one time or another to some degree they are not 100% fool proof.  Don’t do it, don’t ask for sex in an inquiry. We all know why we are here, you pay, i provide. If you need it spelled out for you then you are looking for trouble! If you need to know about anal sex then do some research and find my reviews that are floating on the tubes and viola! You are now informed. If you cant do that i would guess the proliferation of the word GFE in association with myself all over my website with never a mention of PSE might be your first fucking clue.

I did write this potential client back with a link to my screening form, asked for dates/times and emphasized my GFE nature. Of course i heard not a word back. Because this guy was either a cop, a time waster or just your every day dick in your hand dumbass hobbyist, none of which i want to hang out with in any capacity.

Ripped Off

getting ripped off!
A civvie friend of mine, from way before high school, I’ve pretty much known him all my life tells me he’s broken up with his girlfriend and is thinking about seeing a hooker. Now the funny thing is this friend of mine doesn’t know I’m a escort! He  knows I work as a Pro Domme, he knows I know something about the sex business and that I’m open minded and have never judged him about anything.

I give him the low down, I tell him how not to get ripped off. How to cross check reviews to ads, where to look for reviews, what mall sites to look on, how to check phone numbers, reputations, web presence and most of all how to spot a fake, a rip off and an bait an switch agency… We talk about his desire to see an escort, why he wants to see one, what kinda experience he’s looking for… yadda yadda yadda.

He takes none of my advice. He calls two girls after midnight, off Backpage, who show up with two bulky bald bad ass drivers and they pretty much rob him of over 400 bucks with the “whole were not hookers were dancers”, “all this money goes to the agency if you want more you have to pay more” never to provide any service standard operating Los Angeles bait and switch agency procedure, the full experience  i tried to teach him how to avoid.

Since I’m one of his oldest friends and he mine he did tell me about his rip off experience also throwing in that “wow you really know your stuff, it happened just like you had said it would” no shit Sherlock!  Then the question came,  he asked me how I knew so much. I responded with “I just know things” and i left it at that, he didn’t press me. Though he’s probably one of the people I could tell I was an escort and had been one for years I just wasn’t up to the whole confess and tell all the stories kinda conversations I know id be in for if I fessed up to my secret life. I did try to scare him a little because i didn’t want him to try again and not take my advice and put himself in a bad situation. Especially when there are so many awesome legit women working in LA he’d have a good experience with.

no bj, no hj, no sex
As another friend of mine said.. being ripped off is part of the process. I guess it is.  My good friend who had the inside track did everything he could to be ripped off, he went out of his way to get ripped off. Maybe because it was reinforcing to himself how he shouldn’t be banging hookers, who knows really but so many guys are not smart about seeing hookers, i cant even begin to count the number of clients who told me about their rip off story when they first started down the paid companionship road. Usually they only get ripped off once, then they get smart about it.. So maybe it is part of the process in paying for sex, it really could be.

I told my friend that the next time he had the urge to give away his money that he could just write me a check… he laughed but I was serious.

Escort mode

The elephant in the room is im a hooker
I’ve been escorting for years and been involved in the sex business in one for or another for even longer. It will effect how you see the world and how you do things. Some positive, some negative. The sum of my experiences makes me who i am, motives me and shapes my world view. Being an escort isn’t about your needs, your sexuality or you anything. Its a service industry job. you are there to serve another’s needs. I get approached all the time by young hopefuls as i like to call the. Many right after some big glossy pretty exciting hooker story breaks in the news. They want to be escorts because they think its glamorous, they want to control men with their sexual prowess, they want to explore their new found sexuality and get paid for fucking hot sexy men who they’d  fuck anyways for free. Yeah,  its not like that.  Escorting isn’t about your needs, its about your clients needs. I try to tell those young hopefuls as much and often refuse to help guide them and  mentor them. Instead preferring to direct them to their local hook up website where they can explore their sexuality and learn to exercise their new found pussy power. Preferring to do what i can to keep those that don’t get what escorting really is out of my backyard.

My life and experience as an escort also seems to find its way into my real life day to day world. For example yesterday. I had a meeting with a potential client about a freelance job. I had already spoken at length with this guy about his project  and this was a simple chemistry check and i had to sign the non disclosure. He’s putting a team together and looking for the right mix. It was right up my alley, i was not just qualified but even over qualified though this project has potential to really skyrocket. I met with him over coffee to talk about what he was doing moving forward and how best what i do and how my skill set could fit in. Well that was the idea anyways.

Unpaid work

What this meeting turned into was some entitled, self important, blow-hard talking about himself, repeating himself, not making clear points. This wasn’t a conversation, this guy wasn’t there to engage me and see if i was the right candidate to move his project forward and it reminded me of my escort life. This guy if he wasn’t a hobbyist sure was acting like one.  In the beginning of the conversation i tried to interject with my skills bringing up previous projects i had worked on that would fit with his model.  To no avail he was too busy name dropping and repeating himself to notice my presence.  About 25 minutes in i gave up and went into escort mode, smiling, nodding, leaning in when he was speaking, acting interested and making him feel like he really had something special in this project. I as a prop there to service his needs.  All this encounter needed was my tits on the table and an envelope stuffed with cash in my purse.

In retrospect i should have gotten up, thanked him for his time and been on my way  about 15 minutes in when realized what was going on. But i didn’t. I don’t know why, maybe because my experience as an escort got in the way and i went into survival mode. Subconsciously maybe i didn’t think i had the right to walk away i was there so i had to see it though to the bitter end just like when youre in a none to stealler escort situation. compartmentalize, get though it, get out. The situation seemed all to familiar, only i wasn’t there to service him it was a business meeting  and he wasn’t paying me for my time. I had every right to walk away and not feel guilty or bad about it or that he would trash me on a message board for my “unprofessional” behavior. But that didnt happen. I stayed, I saw it though until he dismissed me and declared the meeting over.

As i was driving home i thought about what had happened, how i so easily slipped into escort mode and didn’t assert myself, my skills, my abilities how i gave up in this meeting.  I did myself a disservice yesterday i wont let that happen again.

Flipped

Flip for me baby

It happened, a well known”hobbyist” a prolific reviewer, a big man on campus, a big swinging dick, a whore fucker beyond all whore fuckers got busted, then he flipped and cried like a little girl. He didn’t just flip,  he went above and beyond. He gave access to his personal profile on a national review site (and who knows how many other not national review sites) he handed over his access to screening services and he give the cops his access to  private men’s only sections and the jewel of the popos bust…  he gave them access to a private mens only website. You know the one, where they spend the bulk of their time calling escorts fat, overpriced and collud on ways to manipulate and control them.  No one liked it when you found you website was linked to that cesspool of misogyny, now it seems El Flipo has given the popo a perfect excuse to go after other hobbyists and try to enlist the help of escorts to do so.

Law Enforcement has put out official statements on their website, they have spoken to the media, they have taken out backpage ads that  listed names and handles of “hobbyists” they would like more info on. I know for a fact that at least some of those names match those handles.  The have asked for the help of women who feel they have been abused at the hands of these men. They invoke the dreaded trafficking as a way inside to gain support. This whiny little bitch gave the police everything they needed. Access and viable reason.

Mr. Flip really fucked over his “brethren” on this one.  I guess its not really “bros before hos”  which is so often invoked in that crowd. Its more like save your own skin and fuck over everyone else. This turn of events isn’t just fucking over his fellow whore mongers, he’s also fucked over the ladies as well.

I have 300 white listings

I would guess (and i have heard rumors) that they didn’t pop said Flip-a-roney on a scant misdemeanor solicitation of prostitution charge. When the  popo go after the ladies they usually try to up the charge with an add on, like drugs. Get the girl to supply them and wham they have something to work with. Cuz really who’s going to sing over a 100 buck ticket in most states. Mr Flip being such a seasoned “hobbyist” would know this and i doubt he would bring the party to the party. So there’s more to this. Rumors abound that he was caught with an underage. Still more that he wasn’t just trading reviews of escorts for service (a rumor that has been following him around for a long time) but that he actually was running the girls. Well BAM! Now that would make a weak minded fucktard sing. Pimping, pandering, promoting prostitution. Were talking federal here.

So once again some guy cant be satisfied with fucking a hot girl in exchange for a little cash. He’s got to get in on the deal, and action. Hes got to grab cash and more likely he wanted the power. The power of influence over his fellow whore fucker and the power of “i can make and break” you over the ladies.. not to mention all the access to free pussy.

What a fucking dirt bag.

Be safe ladies

Hes blemished our screening services and white list services. I personally will not be using them right now. Why risk it. He’s given the cops access and who knows who they contacted and flipped. He’s blemished the reference system (who knows how far reaching that will go)  Booking a “well known hobbyist” in MD VA and DC right now is just asking to be busted.  Our traditional screening methods are rendered inoperative. You can not rely on them. He’s really done a disservice to all those he spent countless hours trying to become “king” of.

If you’re in the infected area then think about not working there right now. If you cant do that then you must be extremely careful until this all shakes out. If you rely on references, find another way, if you rely on screening services, find another way, if you rely on seeing people known to the community, find another way.

And to think they bitch and moan about escorts and their need to be safe and all our safety measures but when one of their own gets caught up he spill his guts like the bitch he is. People want to know why i don’t like “hobbyists” well that’s why. I don’t like men who want to insinuate themselves into the realm of escort business because it never ends well for US. They either want to control and manipulate us, or they fuck us over and sometimes they do both. Isn’t that right El Flipo.

Just fuck the whore, pay her and go home.

*no I’m not providing links, not only were people outed but i don’t want my site viewed on stat trackers

**and a big hello to all my new readers on private boards big and small across the nation