Not all money is good money

No one wants to fuck Grumpy
As an escort you sometimes have to put up with a negative client or potential client. The client that wants you to “sell” yourself to them, the kind that think you need to impress him, woo him, seduce him into booking an appointment with you. They often have a “prove it to me” attitude. These same types of guys also love to tell hot chicks at the strip club no. I think they just go to the strip club so that they can tell hot girls no, when the girls are just  doing their jobs and trying to hustle dances.

I never go out of my way to book those style of potential clients, in fact just the opposite.  I usually delete the email or hang up the phone. On occasion i get pissed off and say something not so nice and sometimes the reaction is a big ole pissing match between me and the once potential client. My attitude is one of you either want to book me or you don’t. I have websites, blogs, profiles, reviews, clips, tweets, ridiculous amount of photos, so if all that info isn’t enough and you still NEED me to send time hard selling myself to you, then i already know i wouldn’t like you, don’t like you and really don’t wanna spend my naked time with you, regardless if you have a hand full of cash to spend or not. Not all money is good money and spending an hour or two with that attitude is something I’d prefer to avoid. In fact id rather rearrange my sock drawer and anyone who knows me, knows i hate that.

It’s as if that guy, the “sell me guy” doesn’t really like women very much and that attitude comes pouring out with every word in an email or with every syllable on a phone call. I’m thinking it starts young, in high school or college, when they didn’t get treated by women how they think they deserve to be treated or rather how they’re entitled to be treated.  It festered and now as full grown ass adults and they are resentful, entitled and often mean. They also are usually pretty pissed off they are seeing escorts to begin with. They forget its a choice. They forget they could just as easily spend their time and money wooing women into their beds who are not paid companions. However with their decided lack of charms that would require a different kind of approach. They’d have to be NICE to them  because the “I’ve got the money so you have to take my bullshit attitude and still act like you like fucking me” ain’t going to work with women who are in your bed because.. and here’s the key, they want to be there. Escorts will fuck you and pretend like they want to be there because they only have to do it for an hour and then they forget you existed. Civvies.. yeah not really how they operate.

You don't have to be Don Juan, you do have to be nice.

So Mr entitled asshat might actually have to be nice to them.. which of course is one of the reasons he’s banging hookers to begin with. He doesn’t have to even try to be nice or he thinks he doesn’t. Because they dont want to adjust their attitudes, they feel as if escorts are their “only” choice and that makes them mad , resentful and very hard to deal with.  That guy truly treats us like whores in the process of working out his many personal issues with women in general. Oh joy of joys.  Sure there are girls who will see any douchebag who screens with a fits fulla dollars. Good for her, I’ve never been that girl.

I can't look away!
As much as i love money and we’ve well established money is what makes my panties wet, i don’t love it enough to have to spend a few hours with a blow-hard ass hat if i can help it. Show me your an ass hat off the bat and I’ll be “unavailable” , on vacation, all booked up or I’ll forget to respond. Now I’ve been tricked into sessions with asshats and I’ve sucked it up and slapped a fake smile on my face with a giggle, a hair flip  and gotten though with a mantra of “its just an hour” going off over and over in my head and my client(s) were non the wiser. But i like to avoid that if at all possible. Why in a business so personal, intimate  would i chose to put myself in a situation where someone isn’t nice to  me where  thinks so little of me, my kind or my gender that they feel entitled to treat me in a less then kind manner because they have a little extra cash. Oh i wouldn’t and no one should have to. I know its sex “work”  and just as with any job, some days are better then other days but when you see the train coming you get off the fucking track. You don’t stand there let the train run you over then later try to convince  yourself as your scrubbing in the shower to get the wheel grease off you it wasn’t that bad… it was that bad you just got hit by a train. Better to get off the track next time to avoid all that messy train wreck stuff.

Learning to pass up the bad money is one of the hardest things to learn working as an escort. But its important lesson to learn. It’s one of the ways I’ve managed to stay in this often difficult business for the years I have and not have to wear too much emotional damage on my sleeve.

Naughty Distractions

What a way to spend the day
Being as The Supercrush (that’s code for my boyfriend) and I live in different states I often have long periods of time where I have to entertain myself in the sexy time department. Good thing the folks at Eden Fantasys were kind enough to send me out a little naughty distraction for my lady parts.

This time when I opened the mail it was the Evolve Diamante vibrator. First thing i noticed was the pretty awesome packaging. Metallic metal case much like a sexy purple lunch box! It’s so much nicer to get something packaged in something modern and cool instead of some brown paper bag or outdated graphics and photos from the 70’s (no one wants to see a 70’s stache on a dude holding a vibe on the box of their new sex toy)  Inside this nicely designed box was the toy its self (it doesn’t come with batteries so better have a few on hand) it’s big and being a size queen (shhh don’t tell)  i could feel a little tingle of excitement as most toys that say they are big, really are kinda average. This thing isn’t just a good size in length, its got girth! And is sorta a half hard plastic and half smoother rubber, woot! it also has several speeds that aren’t so loud you will wake the neighbors while you go to town on yourself .. it really feels like a dildo with vibration. Which is a nice little… errr big toy to add to your sex toy collection. (so much better then collecting stamps)

it does the job well and worked hard as a stand in for my regular fare… hot sweaty sex with the supercrush. Not quite a stunt cock but when you’re alone and looking for a little me time, the XX will treat ya right, it treated me right … twice!

Sissy Slut New Femdom Hypnosis

Boys will be girls... and sluts
New Femdom Hypnosis, Sissy Slut. Sissy Sluts, I love them! I love to dress you up in frills and turn you into my little slut. This is a psychedelic inspired mind bending transformation audio file. In collaboration with Sal DeBain who is a mainstream known music producer and rockstar lending his talents under a pen name. It will send you deep into a transformative trance, just what sissy sluts need.

Take a listen: SissySlutPreview

 

Inner music the words make

A.. B...C...D...E...
I’ve been writing this blog for a number of years and its hard to stay inspired sometimes. I’m often bitching an moaning that i cant think of another thing to write. It’s hard to come up with article after article post after post trying to stay at least a tiny bit relevant and amusing. In doing that I’m often scouring the web and other blogs for other writers to read and other blogs to steal ideas from be inspired by.  I happened across the EdenCafe and was actually quite surprised by it. Lots of stuff up there from interviews with porn stars to stories about male hookers (OK that one was written by Monica Shores, who I’ve long been a fan of) but the point being there’s a lot of good reads there and a lot of interesting voices.

 

 

Example: while distracting myself and procrastinate making fetish clips ( i know right!) i cam across n interesting link on the Twitter. Yes, i love the Twitter. It was about the slut walk in Toronto. Seems a bunch of ladies took the the street up there in the great white north to protest an incident where a Toronto cop told a classroom full of students at York University that to avoid rape they should avoid dressing like a slut. even though the Officer allegedly received further training for his ridiculous statement and fucked up antiquated slut shaming attitude it wasn’t enough for 1,50 protesters who took to the street for a “SlutWalk” good for them! after reading this story i realized it was a Sexis story and on the eden fantasy blog.

So its a good find there are lots of hidden gems and lots of sexy, sex poz stories, reporting, articles to both inspire and steal okay maybe just get inspired from. I got it in my Google reader and will be checking out out often. Just thought i’d share a little.