To Tweet or not to Tweet, there’s a question?

All the best birds are there

It comes up often on the hooker message boards and it did again the other day. Someone posted a “Hey is anyone else on The Twitter” kinda post, in hopes of finding like minded folks to connect with and just as predictably some one chimed in with  the typical “Twitter is bad for the escort community” and the simple request for like minded peeps jump the rails into a heated discussion about the pros and cons of hookers Tweeting.

The general con thought is that Tweeting is indiscreet and that law enforcement can read your stream. Both have merit until you delve a little deeper.

By the hour of course!

Discretion, well that can mean a lot of things. Escorts often have to walk a line between being “discreet” and self promotion. We have websites that advertise our business. I supposed having a site announcing I’m an escort to some might be indiscreet but i have a business and i need to hang a shingle to make money. So in an effort to be discreet, i don’t put on my site that of you pay me 600 bucks I’ll fuck you silly. My website is “fuck you silly implied” So its about how you use the tools at your disposal. Twitter is one of the top 10 most visited websites out there, that’s a lot of potential for connecting with potential business. Major corporations have embraced twitter, reputation management companies regularly scan hash-tags to keep an eye on there customers thoughts of their business. So why shouldn’t you harness the potential like everyone else? You’d be crazy not to at least try.

Now thats how to take a mug shot!

Now the Law Enforcement issue can be scary to some. “OMG the popo can read your tweeting!” yeah true they can. They can also read the 100’s reviews you have where men said they put their dick in your ass, mouth, pussy for money. They can also read that post you put on that hooker message board or review board advertising you fuck men for money, or your paid ad on a mall site where you put your rates for your by the hour service. They sure can read it, but they have to catch you breaking the law to arrest you. So either don’t break the law or screen your clients so the  chance that you book a session with a cop is much lower. Twitter isn’t going to infringe on your ability to screen your clients.

Now pros of Twitter are many. More hits to your site if you link it, you can really get your name out there to a lot of people you wouldn’t normally, you can raise your profile and hopefully raise your business. You can help to polish your “persona” do you advertise yourself as a sex crazed nympho? Or a sophisticated educated courtesan? Either way you can help to solidify that image, shape and mold how you want people to perceive you.

Just a harmless social netowrking group

But the best reason for escorts to get on and use Twitter is to connect with other sex workers. True there are ladies boards, big ad small regional and national and its wise to be a part of at least some of them to help you stay safe but what they all have in common is there’s always some bitch being a asshole. You cant filter her and her dumb-ass out because those board are for EVERYONE and many have no drama policies.  With Twitter you build you own network, you follow ladies you like, you respect you want to interact with. You don’t follow someone who gets in your last nerve with their negativity and bullshit.

It’s no secret among women in this business that it can be very isolating. You lie to your friends and family about what you do. There is often no one to bounce ideas off with, or even just to vent about having a bad day to. You want to connect with other women who understand your very specific job and as a result you can (and i have) make BAD friendship choices because you get desperate to connect. Twitters a good way to avoid that, you can build your own network of friends specific to the sex business.

Now you might want to avoid tweeting about specific clients. Being a high profile hooker and Tweeter i have been accused of “twittering about my clients” However i don’t and i never have. I might tweet about guys i FUCK, cuz that’s interesting! I might tweet I’m going to an outcall, or that i have a new incall day. I do tweet about my business and try to make my stream interesting to my followers to read (they they follow a hooker they wanna know what life ls like for one). I don’t however tweet about my clients. Why? cuz I’m discreet!  So you lying sacks of hobbyist shit who are running around back channel trying to imply i will tweet about clients, umm yeah keep promoting me, i need to buy a new car an your tongue wagging only raises my profile and brings me closer to that new car smell!

I had to walk uphil, BOTH ways!

So is twitter for you? maybe, maybe not. But to dismiss it out of had is foolish and reeks of being reactionary. The technology age is moving forward at break neck speed, you don’t want to get left behind?  You don’t  wanna be left standing there shaking your fist screaming “get off my lawn” and “back n my day…” do ya?

Blog Stalked!

No really, you are...

I’ve been noticing him for a while. He hits my blog 4-10 times a night. Usually between 2am and 6am. He tries to mask his IP but he doesn’t do a very good job of it. I know the city he comes from and a lot of other identifying info from his/about his computer. Oh and i know his his name servers, who owns those servers and how to get in contact with that person. I’m thinking its likely who he works for.

I think hes trying to hack me, though to what end i don’t know. Hes certainly not reading my blog over and over and over and he hits it every night regardless if i have any new material or not. hes pretty OCD about the whole thing… oh or on crack. I can see what pages he jumps around to as he goes on his late night tweek fest of blog staking me.. lets just say he doesn’t jump around much,  he doesn’t stay long, then he comes back over the next few hours and it starts the process  all over again.

Wash, rinse, repeat!

Wash that man right outta my hair

I’ve taken to blocking his IPs… its like playing whack-a-mole. Since this guy fancies himself some kinda computer wise guy he uses a lot of proxies in his fumbling attempts at what ever it is he’s trying to do as his sits around in the late night, wee morning hours hours smoking bowl after bowl of crack and sweating profusely in his moms basement.

Yeah i dont like you much either

Being vocal i have attracted my fair share of detractors. Usually men who screw the hookers who don’t like what i have to say about said men. Recently i have pissed off some chicks too. Other sex workers, who didn’t like what i had to say about them and my dealings with them.  Ive been stalked in real life by as it turned out by an acquaintance who at a social function recently approached me and tried to “make amends” after terrorizing me for a year. AS IF fuck nut!  I’ve been stalked as “Jenny”  (which continues to this day) So it’s bound to happen that at some point someone would blog stalk little ol’ me. I’m set up for that inevitable situation. I’ve been set up for it since day one.  My blog’s as secure as i can make it and really this blocking of the crazy late night tweekin blog stalker IP’s was just to see what came of it. I could easily just let him hit it all night every night until he got bored and moved on to stalking girls in real life, if  the freak hasn’t already gone that route. Which is of course very likely cuz obviously hes whacked and has too much time on his hands.

I will rat your tweeker ass out

I suppose i could start tweeting at the servers owner. I have found him on the Twitter. I wonder what he would think if he got mixed up in some hooker controversy where his business was being used to stalk some outspoken sex workers blog.  Being as he seems a rather conservative dude who works in the computer field, I’m thinkin’ maybe he would be none to happy with that outcome.

I guess tweeked out blog stalker didn’t take that into account…

Personal responsibility

Bawk!

Personal responsibility is in the news a lot. From the banking crisis to the oil spill. The cry from the more thoughtful among us is, “where  is the personal responsibility.” Would the country gotten into the money crisis it is in the bankers personal assets were at risk as they off loaded our risk in their casino style dealings? Doubtful. What about BP and the gulf oil spill. When testifying before Congress the mantra was “its not my fault” 11 people died in that man made disaster, it would be nice of someone sacked up and said “we fucked up, were at fault” it will never happen.

I do my best to be responsible for my actions. I’m not perfect but it is a characteristic that’s important to me so i try and do the best i can. Though outspoken and vocal I’m not a line crosser. I don’t identify the line then cross it on purpose and intentionally. I don’t think I’m often an unintentional line crosser. I’ve have crossed lines and when i do i always feel bad and do what i can to try to make up for it.

I was recently criticized publicly on a hooker message board, on private boards and back channel for my rather colorful dissertation of a hobby meet and greet i attended. The “types” i directly shone a white hot spotlight on recognized the behaviors in my writing and took offence to it. It went like this “how dare that whore not think were awesome. Doesn’t she know how entitled we are” okay so that’s me paraphrasing but it went on and on like that. blah bah blah.

It wasnt this cool

Me saying that my experience was terrible and reporting back on the abhorrent behaviour i saw isn’t crossing the line. Now if i had called out the worst violators by name/handle/halitosis (since i happen know the names being the one watching the spectacle) then ridiculed and mocked them personally that would have been me crossing the line. Instead i wrote in general terms about my personal experience as a whole and how the whole thing made me throw up in my mouth a little. My little post was a firestorm of controversy! I got “blacklisted” buy some assclown organizing a party in my city, it was a party i didn’t request an invite to but he felt it necessary to let me know i was “blacklisted.” because i wrote something he didn’t like.  He later had to cancel said party for “unknown” reasons. Good thing i never asked for that invite or i might have been sad there was going to be no hobby party for me to attend and be disrespected at.

Another strange occurrence is I received invitations to other parties, mostly on the other coast. I think this was because they wanted to show me that not every where was like i had experienced. At least that’s my impression of the why. I don’t travel as much these days so its unlikely attending any of these would be possible. Interesting juxtaposition of the two positions though. Ban me from parties or show me your party is a good one.

Cat-Bag-Out

The organizer of the party I wrote about was naturally pissed at me for dissing his party but when i explained to him that i didn’t think he was responsible for other peoples behavior, he expressed concern for me and informed me that i was getting pretty heavily slammed on a escort reviewers only forum he was a member of. How sweet of him to be concerned that the old dogs were trying to tear me apart back channel. Well, it was sweet until i came to find out he was one of the slammers!  Yeah it only took a day before i was informed who was slamming whom and what exactly they were saying. So I’ve known all along, like i always do. Secrets on message boards? They never stay secrets for more then 2.5 seconds.  So i wonder what the other old dogs are going to think when they find out LA party planner is telling their tales out of school about private hooker board slammings (and not the fun kind!) oh well, i guess he should take some personal responsibility for that.

Being an escort i come in contact with a lot of line crosses and non responsibility takers. Maybe its entitlement issues, which is one of my pet peeves. Entitlement issues run strong in the hooker world. It’s the buying and selling of sex and the dehumanization of the person doing the selling by men who basically hate themselves and their life choices, that i think is a major contributing factor. (oh the dreaded hobbyist) It’s easier to take it out on the whores they pay to fuck then to be responsible for the choices they made that have lead them to be in a position to be fucking hookers in the first place. Oh there’s that personal responsibility thing again.

You gotta pay to play but you dont gotta be an ass

Now, i don’t think there is anything wrong with fucking hookers. I really don’t. I know the difference between love and sex. Friend and client. Lover and fuck buddy. I do think however that there is something wrong with thinking you’re entitled to be an asshole to hookers. I think there is something wrong if you think you’re special because you fuck hookers. It’s turned very adversarial, the “hobbyist” / provider relationship or interaction. Us against them seems to be the mantra from the hobbyist side of the fence. I feel resented, a lot. As if these men are forced to see hookers and somehow that’s my fault. They want to punish us, are jealous of us, resent us but… continue to use our services. I suppose me being outspoken, upfront and spilling the beans on the subculture to my small corner of the world doesn’t make men who aren’t self realized, self accepting of their choices to fuck hookers and be involved in a very detailed and time consuming way in the hooker subculture very comfortable.

Oh well… i can take personal responsibility for that.

Feet people

Suck it!

I’ve been getting back into the whole world of foot fetish. Ive been involved before, as in before i was an escort. I used to do hard core foot modeling and by hardcore i mean my feet and hard cocks that would then cum all over my delicate perfect toes. Good times.  Since i started phone boning its opened up the whole foot fetish thing for me again. I’ve made foot videos, i have regular web cam clients what want to go to town on my perfect flexible toes and ballerina feet. It’s all good as far as I’m concerned. I have a special place in my heart for foot people. I always have, ever since i first discovered them.

I used to shoot with this fetish photographer who shall remain nameless. Lets just say, hes amazing at what he does. We did regular bondage and fetish shoots together, he was starting out, i was starting out it was a good hook up for us both. One day after we were done shooting he asked me if he could “fuck my feet” before i left.. ahhh didn’t really know how to respond but i was a single girl and I’ve always been open to new stuff in the world of sex, so i said sure why not. I’d never done anything like that before so why not live a little and try something new. I wasn’t attracted to this guy in a sexual way and this was well before i learned how to connect sexually with someone i wasn’t attracted too, maybe as i think back on it this experience was my introduction to that practice.

In action!

He oiled up my feet and toes got them all slippery and then took out his cock. It was a nice thick cock, it looked good when he rubbed it all over my oiled up toes. I started to use my toes to grip his cock and  jerk him off with my toes and the the arches of my feet. I found that i had some pretty good control over my feet that they were in fact … monkey feet! I jerked him off good for a long time bringing him to the edge and then backing off for a bit then bring him to the edge again. I was having a good time, though it wasn’t getting off but i was enjoying myself as i explored this new sex skill i didn’t even know i had. Finally he exploded all over my feet,  he came hard painting my piggies with his cum. He cleaned up my feet with great care and thanked me. I asked him about his foot fetish. He said he’d always had it and explained how it was hard to find a girlfriend who had the same slant. Which i totally got. I mean where are you going to find the girl who cums from having her feet fucked. This is where i learned the difference between a fetish and a kink. This was this guys fetish, feet needed to be present for him to be sexually satisfied, it wasn’t a kink. If it was a kink he would just think feet were sexy.

I stared hardcore foot modeling for him from that point on. I had a lot of fun with it and perfected my foot jerking off cock technique. Once while we were doing some foot pictures of me sucking my own toes (yes, I’m that flexible) he put his cock in the shot so naturally i put it in my mouth… along with my toes. Great shots! He really is amazing with a camera and  talented i mean could you take fantastic artistic shots while getting you cock sucked and jerked off with feet?!

So I’ve come full circle and im getting back into the hardcore foot world. I have to thank that guy for introducing me to in the first place in such a good way. It really is like riding a bike, its a skill that never leaves ya.