For some it’s just not enough to fuck a hooker

Two consenting adults

The escort world isn’t what you see on TV and the movies, it’s a giant subculture and it hits every level from street workers, where you can get a down and dirty car date for a few extra bucks, to high dollar hotties where you can pay thousands of dollars for a little eye candy companionship and of course every where in between. The most popular places to find escorts these days are the message and review boards where you can find like minded people who write accounts of their time with a particular escort. Before the rise of the message boards the clients often had a hard time connecting with other clients. You would think that they wouldn’t want to connect with other dudes who enjoyed screwing hookers but really many of them do. I think it’s a extension of the whole locker room mentality. The act of boning that hot escort is doubly as fun with you get to brag abut it to your buddies and since it’s a secret for most in this little “hobby” who can you brag to? Your boss? Co-workers?  Certainly not your wife.

With the advent of the message board you get a built in online locker room for all your bragging needs. It certainly fits that purpose for many. However for some, just screwing the hooker and having a place to brag about how many times you made her cum (uh huh sure you did) isn’t enough, they want a piece of the action. They need to “control” the situation. Welcome to the world of the wanna be pimp!

One of the good guys?

In Minnesota last year a ring of wanna be pimps were busted (really one guy got busted but many were involved). Though they called themselves “The nice guys” they hardly were. They were middle aged, white males who thought that if they trafficked in escorts to their city they could get all kinds of benefits. From free sex with the hookers, to making money off the deal. There was even speculation they used their “status” as well known “hobbyists” to curry favor, which is a polite way to say coerced. Just screwing the escorts wasn’t enough for them… and wham Busted. That’s called pandering and pimping and its really shady and uncool.  That situation was taken to an extreme, those “hobbyists” really were acting as pimps but that happens all over the escort subculture to different degrees. Hobbyists not being satisfied with their role, they want a piece of the real action. The money to some degree but mostly they want the control.

Bring on the dancing bitchez

One thing that so many escorts like about their work is the control over their own business so it’s pretty insulting when some middle aged, lumpy, white males get all jealous (and frankly are pissed that they are paying for pussy) and try to steal a girls independence. I think that’s the core of the issue more so then the free tail or few bucks they can try to make off the deal. They want in. One tactic is to start little “clubs” (in fact there’s a whole website dedicated to clubs) have weekly or monthly dinners where they give themselves little nick names and try to take control of a girls business. “If you come to our dinner you will get more business because WE are soooo popular and have special hobbyist status”. Since escorts get paid for their time, it’s really a way for these losers to hang out with hot girls for FREE and then they go back to their virtual locker room and brag about the encounters trying desperately to up their cashe with other “hobbyists” which in turn they think will net them more girls who have to placate them because they are afraid of repercussions of said group of old dogs.

Stick with me, I can make you a HDH!

I’ve even heard of one retired East Coast guy who owns a mall advertising site where he collects money for paid ads that get little traffic and less business, he runs a small message board and then sells his services as a photographer, web designer and ad writer. He’s made a whole second life business leaching off escorts backs. He can often be found in strip clubs, trying to recruit strippers and regaling them of tales of how much money they can make as high end  escorts but only  if they use all his services. Just being a hobbyist wasn’t enough for him, he’s a perfect example of a wanna be pimp.

This kind of thing happens all over the country and to varying degrees with more and more frequency. The clients have a way of communication now that they didn’t have a few years back.  I also think that men who spend too much time thinking about, acting on and preoccupied with fucking hookers go a special kind of crazy and feel out of control a lot of the time. This wanna be pimpdom makes them feel like they have some kinda control over the situation, which of course is a big fat lie they tell themselves. They don’t have control and they never will and hence they turn what could be a fun little pastime, having sex with a beautiful women of their choice who will treat them like the studly king they always wished they were, into something ugly, stupid and obsessive.

Loser of the year is more like it.

What a waste of a good time.

Vanessa Monet, Porn Superstar

Vanessa Monet 01/2010

Just this week I  was booked by the lovely and talented Vanessa Monet for a photoshoot. Vanessa is always fun to shoot. I’ve shot her before for $pread Magazine and for some personal projects and its always fun.

We shot at the William Mulholland Memorial Fountain which is one of my favorite places in LA to shoot.

If you don’t already know Vanessa you should get to know her. Shes been in over 100 hardcore movies that will rock your socks and in real life is just a great girl.

Me and V - hard at work!

“The meat it feeds on”

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I’m always amused at how closely my every move is scrutinized by people who basically just don’t like me. I know, I know,  it’s hard to believe that anyone wouldn’t like me. I like to personally subscribe to the theory that they are either threatened or intimated by little old me and are weak minded little trolls who don’t have much to occupy their time with. However scrutinize me they do (for whatever their twisted reasons), studying me, analyzing everything I write, photograph and say. Waiting for me to make some kind of misstep so they can then try to use it against me somehow. It reminds me of when I worked in advertising all those years ago, a creative director would spend her time interrogating my colleagues after meetings looking for some thing she could use against me down the road. She was weak minded and completely threatened.

I suppose I find it amusing because when I don’t like something (or someone) I don’t spend my time and energy on every little thing they do. I dont read their blogs, follow their twitter, look at their websites, read their books, go see their movies, art shows or dramatic readings. I don’t bother with anything they do.

Louis Prima said it best

Life is too damn short for that kinda crap. Id rather write something original, photograph some hot chick, read a book or volunteer at my local food bank then waste my time festering and fretting over someone I don’t much care for. The people I don’t care for cease to exist in my world, I’m funny like that.

Mind your own fucking business

STFU

I’ve been seeing it enough that I felt i should say something. It’s always been there but usually it’s well hidden and rarely bubbles to the point of being so public. With times being tough for most (yes, even escorts) people are becoming less and less secretive about sticking their noses in other people business under the guise of “defending a client” What it really is, is a couple competitors slugging it out in a public forum to try to gain more business. Or usually it’s more like one lady calling out another lady publicly with the hopes that it will end up that the money (hobbyist) will follow the big mouth fuss maker.

Just because a client tells you “Provider X, is demanding I pay her fee after I canceled  or she will blacklist me” (or some other such made up bullshit) doesn’t mean that you should then run off at the mouth and call out said provider X for her interaction with her client. You don’t know their arrangement and odds are the “hobbyist” isn’t being truthful with you.  Maybe she’s being unreasonable and out of line or maybe she isn’t but for a competitor to get in the middle of someones else’s business transaction reeks of self interest. “If I defend him, in the future he will only spend his money on me”. It also smells of using your business practices to further your self esteem issues. So don’t do it. The hobbyist is likely setting your dumb ass up to be his white fucking knight anyways. Now you can fight it out with the other provider while he sits quietly on the sidelines fanning the flames, back channeling how stupid you are and how smart he is for getting you to do his bidding, feeling all full of himself in the process “look at those providers fighting over…. me”

I know it’s tough out there and that it’s easy to forget where “client” leaves off and “friend” comes in but here’s a clue if you are having trouble with that gray area and are blurring that line. They ain’t ever your friends and they sure as hell  don’t need you to defend their dumb asses. Even if you think “He didn’t ask me to defend him, I’m doing it because were friends” I’d bet cold hard cash on the fact that you were manipulated into thinking it was your idea to speak out, or rather to “rage out.”  Why do you know about his intimate, financial dealings with any other provider in the first place? Oh because hobbyist dude is setting you up, that’s why.

What a sad clown

So next time a hobbyist wants to cry on your shoulder about how unfair and mean provider X is, and don’t kid yourself hobbyists gossip and cluck more then a bunch of old ladies at a bridge tournament in Pokipsee, don’t fall for it and make yourself look like a fool in the process. Just smile and nod and don’t be a sucker. Hobbyists are big boys, grown ups, and if they are mature enough to make the decision to pay for companionship then they are mature enough to fight their own battles and don’t need some manipulated hooker to do it for them.

I’m just sayin…